When you first add a girl, most girls tend to have a very cold attitude. This is normal. After all, girls need to maintain their reserve in order to be attractive. So in this kind of atmosphere, how should you chat with her?
Next, the editor will tell you how to chat with the girl you just added to make her less cold.
1. Pay attention to two-way interaction when chatting
When chatting with the girl we just added, we must try to find The topic she is interested in, but most people chat like this:
Male: Going to eat skewers with friends in the summer evening is not a good idea
Female: Haha, it’s really good, I like it too
Male: Can you eat spicy food?
Female: Yes, but I have some oral ulcers recently (implying that I can’t eat spicy food recently)
Male: Every time I eat kebabs, I always add a lot of spicy food. No matter how spicy it is, I don’t like it (I just talk to myself and don’t understand the girl’s meaning at all)
Male: Let’s go out to eat together tomorrow night?
Female: Ah? Let’s wait some time
Male: Didn’t you say you like barbecue?
Female: Something's wrong
Actually, this girl was quite enthusiastic, and there was nothing wrong with her first few sentences. However, in the subsequent chat, she completely ignored the girl's thoughts and kept talking according to her own ideas. This way of chatting is definitely unqualified.
Therefore, while we are looking for topics that girls are interested in, we also need to understand how girls feel at the time and pay attention to two-way interaction. That’s fine, for example:
Male: Going to eat skewers with friends in the summer evening, it’s not that good at all
Female: Haha, it’s really good, I like it too
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Male: Can you eat spicy food?
Female: I like it, but I have some oral ulcers recently (implying that I can’t eat spicy food recently)
Male: Can you eat spicy food recently? You should eat less spicy food (response to the girl’s words)
Female: Yes, I think it’s because of eating too much spicy food
Male: I’ll go with my friend tomorrow Eat, I originally wanted to invite you to join us, but it seems that’s not possible now
Female: Haha, maybe next time, wait until my mouth heals
Male: Okay, then Just next time, I will eat your portion for you tomorrow (to liven up the chat atmosphere)
Female: Eat so much, be careful you get oral ulcers
Male: If it’s true In that case, then I have to rely on you (deliberately complaining about the girl and flirting with her)
Will you be able to have a good time in this way?How about a quick chat? And it also achieves the effect of invitation.
The above example of the mistake is a typical example of only wanting to talk about topics that girls are interested in, but ignoring the interaction with girls, and as a result, you got yourself into a trap.
2. Use open-ended questions and answers
When you first meet girls, they seem aloof. It’s due to personality, but if after chatting for a while, girls are still so cold, then there must be something wrong with your way of chatting, such as the following chat:
Male: Do you usually like reading?
Female: I like it
Male: Whose book do you like to read?
Female: Haruki Murakami
Male: Him What are the books about?
Girls: love, youth
…
The ending can be imagined, either ending the chat with no problem or ending with the girl Don't want to reply to the message and end the chat.
Such questioning methods are all closed questions, which can only allow girls to answer yes or no, which will make girls feel Chatting with you is boring and I don’t want to chat with you anymore. Therefore, if you want to ask questions, try to use open-ended questions and answers, such as:
Male: Do you usually like reading?
Female: Yes
Male: Me too, I was watching Wang Xiaobo's "The Golden Age" before, but when the girls heard this, they thought I was evil, haha.
Female: Haha, really (obviously the girl can’t take the topic)
Male: What kind of books do you usually like to read (ask the girl, restart the topic)
Female: I am reading Sanmao's "The Rainy Season Will Never Come Again"
Male: I rarely read books now, but I envy people who can calm down and read books, haha ??(express my state and feelings, so that the girl can feel that you are having a deep communication)
Girl: I just read for a while before going to bed every day. I feel that reading for a while will help me sleep~
Male: I didn’t expect reading to have this effect. It seems that I should also develop the habit of reading before going to bed
Female: That’s right, you don’t know, should you thank me for telling you this? Secret?
You should also pay attention when chatting with a girl about topics that she is interested in. Firstly, avoid asking girls closed-ended questions; secondly, guide girls to talk more, so that girls will find it interesting to chat with you. , rather than boring, so that her cold attitude can be changed.
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