When chatting with the girl you like, if you want to win her favor, you must make the other party feel comfortable during the chat. Only in this way can she like the feeling of chatting with you, and finally like you. So how do you chat with her? How can girls feel comfortable when chatting?
1. Don’t be too purposeful
As a girl He is a perceptual animal and is very disgusted with boys who touch him with purpose rather than good feelings.
In the process of chatting with girls, we often bring useful information, and the more useful information we have, the more obvious our purpose is. For example, exchanging information with girls, talking about understanding and views on love, chatting about ambiguous topics, etc. These chat contents are all useful conversations to help us upgrade our relationship with girls. The higher the proportion in the chat, the more likely It disgusts girls.
However, if we don’t bring these useful information, it will be difficult to upgrade the relationship with girls, so when chatting, we can appropriately add some irrelevant topics and dilute these useful information appropriately.
Generally speaking, the chat that makes girls feel most comfortable must be at least 90% nonsense, and only 10% of the core content is enough. Once the nonsense content drops below 50%, the purpose will begin to become obvious, and girls will become more and more repelled by our topics.
2. Learn to listen to girls
Learning to listen to girls not only allows you to more accurately understand what girls want The information expressed makes it easier to grasp keywords and extend the topic, making communication between you smoother; at the same time, it will also make girls feel respected, and they will be more willing to listen to you.
Of course, if you want to build a sense of comfort in a chat, you don’t just have to be a listener throughout the process, because if you don’t respond, it will only make the girl feel frustrated and make her suspect that you are not interested in her. , so appropriate responses during the listening process will create a sense of comfort in the chat between you.
3. Don’t ask too straightforward questions
When many straight men chat with girls, they use words such as “Where are you from?” “How many people are in your family?” "What are you doing for work?" Asking girls questions in such a straightforward way will not only bring no sense of comfort, but will also make girls feel very uncomfortable.
Although girls don’t mind telling you these things, as we said above, girls are emotional animals, and they will pay great attention to your attitude. If you are straightforward in this way, If you don't ask, it will only make the atmosphere of your chat more and more tense.
The correct approach is to either disclose your own information first and exchange information to achieve a value balance. For example, replace "Where are you from" with "My hometown is XX, have you heard of it?" After the girl finishes answering,, if you ask her where she is from, the girl will tell you the answer directly.
We can also use the nonsense principle, not directly raising the questions we want to know, but talking about something irrelevant.
For example: "Looking at your temperament, you should still be a college student." Not only does it allow the girl to tell her approximate age, but it also compliments her in passing, which is easier than asking the girl directly "How old are you?" It’s so comfortable!
4. Reduce the time, cost and energy for girls to reply
Those who need Conversations that require more time and energy to reply will make girls feel tired and bored.
Therefore, when chatting with girls, we can preset answers and let girls choose from the answers we provide. In other words, let her do multiple-choice questions or true-false questions, and don’t let her Do answer questions.
For example, if a girl says she can’t sleep, don’t ask: “Why can’t I fall asleep?” Instead, ask: “Is it habitual insomnia or something on your mind? (multiple choice)” or “Is it because you have something on your mind?” (True or False Question)".
In this way, girls only need to choose an answer from the references we have given, and no longer have to think about a lot of answers, and she will feel very relaxed and comfortable talking to us. Even if the options given happen to be the answers to the questions, it will make the girl feel that we understand her quite well.
Therefore, if you can play a leading role in chatting, it will be easier to create a sense of comfort than if the girl makes all the decisions.
5. Reduce some preconceived notions
Many people will be influenced by some preconceived notions when understanding girls’ words. The idea of ??influencing girls to say some uncomfortable words.
For example, this is insomnia. Most people’s understanding of insomnia is that there is either a physical problem or something on their mind, and something on their mind accounts for a greater proportion. Some boys will subconsciously think that a girl has something on her mind, and then blurt out: "What are you thinking about?"
Who says what I am thinking! I can't sleep when it's too cold or too hot, outside Is it okay to be so noisy that I can’t sleep? Why do you just conclude what I’m talking about? Besides, it’s none of your business what I’m thinking about?
This kind of highly subjective understanding can easily lead you to say the wrong thing. It makes girls resentful.
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