Whether he is in contact with girls, socializing in society, or falling in love with his girlfriend, if a boy can have high emotional intelligence, he can create a better impression. But for boys with low emotional intelligence, they may sometimes offend others or make their girlfriend angry without even knowing it. Let’s talk about what should I do if my girlfriend says that my emotional intelligence is too low?
1. Think more when things happen
In fact, many times girlfriends say that your emotional intelligence is low because you don’t think much when things happen, you are stupid. Hmm...how to put it. If she says you have low emotional intelligence, then it may be that some of the things she said are not true and you take them seriously, such as:
Are you playing games? Then you can play, I’m sleeping.” (Many boys may think that their girlfriends are considerate, and then they really enjoy playing games and don’t care about their girlfriends)
In fact, the girlfriend's inner OS is: "Hurry up and put down your fucking games and come chat with me, or I will never pay attention to you again, hum!"
And so on. In short, brother, be more careful when things happen and think about where you might offend your girlfriend. Everyone gets angry in different ways. This requires you to get to know your girlfriend better. .
2. Express feelings more
In fact, many boys love their girlfriends very much, but verbally He doesn't say much, but likes to secretly treat his girlfriend well with practical actions. Maybe she feels that you are not the love she expected, and the reality is too different from what she imagined. That's why she complains so much, saying that you have low emotional intelligence. This is not a person who can change or not. The key to the problem is yourself. I don’t realize how to express love and how to please a girl. In fact, if you want to have high emotional intelligence, just think more from other people’s perspective and consider the problem from your girlfriend’s perspective.
3. Get to know your girlfriend better
In fact, the so-called low emotional intelligence is just that you have not understood many of her intentions. For example, I should pay more attention to her habits in normal life, know what to say and what jokes to make when we are together, and think more about her perspective. This is what I am like now. Also, if you don’t know how to ask, be more proactive. Although many people now say they envy the kind of soul mate who can understand each other's intentions without saying anything, this kind of mate is really hard to find and basically does not exist. So it is most important to know more about your girlfriend and communicate more.
4. Understand what your girlfriend wants
What does your girlfriend mean when she says you have low emotional intelligence? I can’t understand my girlfriend’s heart, I can’t give my girlfriend what I want, I can’t sympathize with my girlfriend’s feelings, so I don’t know how to use the right words and actions.Go respond to your girlfriend. But I believe that your heart is kind and you love your girlfriend, but you really need to improve in the above aspects. So the key is to understand what your girlfriend wants and give her what she wants, then she won't think you have low emotional intelligence.
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