Many girls have a roommate or best friend. When many boys are chasing girls, they want to start with the girl’s roommate. Is this method really reliable?
You know, women are very jealous. No matter how good the relationship is, it is easy to have a comparison mentality. It is really difficult to get along with your best friend or roommate. Grab a handful.
And even if a girl has a good relationship with her roommate, whether you start with her roommate will be effective or not depends on her roommate’s opinion of you.
Generally, when a roommate encounters this situation, he or she will evaluate whether you are suitable from a girl's perspective, whether the girl likes you, what your personality is like, and whether you are worthy of the other person.
In this case, there will be cognitive bias. After all, how do you know that the preferences of female roommates and girls are the same?
If a female roommate is optimistic about you, although the chance of success will increase, it is also likely that you will use too much force, which will make the girl you want to pursue resist.
And asking female roommates to help can easily complicate things. If you are not familiar with her roommate, or if you don't like her roommate, you may hit a wall at the roommate level. The difficulty of your subsequent pursuits will also increase.
Moreover, a girl’s roommate may not be willing to help you because she is not familiar with you. After all, you asked her to help you put in a good word for you, and you asked her to tell you the girl’s whereabouts. In essence, Just ask her to be a spy, which means betraying her good friend!
Why should she do it when she is not familiar with you? Would you betray your best friend?
Therefore, if you want to pursue a girl through her roommate, you are actually taking a detour, because you have to establish a good relationship with the girl roommate in advance. If the girl roommate, I look down on you at all and think you are not worthy. Maybe when you look back, you can tell your girl, hey, you know what, that XXX, he wants to chase you...
Aren’t you setting too many limits for yourself? Is it an obstacle?
Therefore, if you want to pursue a girl without going through a third party, try not to go through a third party. After all, relationships are a matter of two people, even if the third party is the girl's roommate or even her best friend. Try to be as quiet as possible and don't let so many people know.
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