As the younger generation, especially single older adults, most people actually have a little Spring Festival anxiety, because they will be asked about relationship issues when they go home during the New Year. It's okay to ask once or twice. The key is that you will be asked this kind of question every time you go somewhere, and you have to answer it patiently. After all, the people who ask these questions are elders who care about you. What should you do if you go home during the Chinese New Year and are urged to get married? How to deal with the anxiety of being urged to get married during the Spring Festival?
In fact, facing these problems, we are almost helpless, and our fate is dominated by the words of our elders during the New Year. Faced with some pressing questions, we were almost helpless. We had to be polite and disrespectful to our elders. We reasoned well but they couldn't listen. We were always bored and helpless.
Just chatting with relatives, asking about your work relationship, when you will get married, and finding someone everywhere. These are friendly greetings that are not worth fearing, and there is no need to resist. However, these greetings and exhortations actually hint at the estrangement and gap between the two generations in their pursuit of life. Their "care" not only fails to help young people facing life hurdles and drastic changes in the times, but also intentionally or unintentionally creates gaps and anxiety.
Not only by questioning and persuading, but also by comparing others. Whether it's a cousin or a son who leads the family, it seems that the path taken by others is always the best. Whoever entered the research institute or became a civil servant had only been home for a few days, and all outstanding peers within a few miles were forced to get to know each other. When you were a child, I tried my best to train you, hoping that you would get better and better. When you grow up and really want to go out and try your luck, they want you to return to a small city, preferably with an iron rice bowl.
This mentality is the same as parents letting their children learn musical instruments from an early age. If you tell them one day, your dream is to become a musical instrument. When a musician comes along, parents tend to freak out. Because this road is too difficult, it can only be used to flaunt excellence, but it is far less easy than civil servants.
Actually. It’s not that young people don’t know how to understand their parents. When they go home during the Spring Festival, they just want to be reunited. But as soon as we returned home, all we felt was the generation gap and estrangement, and all we encountered were problems that couldn't be solved through communication. So try to adjust your mentality as much as possible. In fact, it is not that scary. Just treat it as a holiday for family reunion. As for emotional issues, it's great if you can meet the right one. If you can't, don't force it, let alone care about other people's opinions.
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