When it comes to dating, I must admit, I was once a "serial loser." I remember a period when I was rejected four times in a single month, which made me question my life. Later, after some exploration and learning, I realized that pursuing women isn't about brute force but requires some skills and strategies. Today, I want to share my "comeback" experience with you, hoping to help those brothers still struggling with love.
First, don't let a woman feel that you "can't live without her." It sounds counterintuitive, right? But that's the truth. Many men, when pursuing women, always act extremely devoted, even telling the woman that they've cut off all contact with other women and only talk to her. You might think this shows loyalty, but in a woman's eyes, it makes you seem "too easy to get," thus losing interest. It's like building blocks as a child; playing alone feels boring, but if there's a little competition, it becomes more motivating. Women are the same; they enjoy relationships with a sense of competition. Therefore, appropriately letting a woman know you have other female friends can make her value you more.
Second, make your conversations interesting; don"t follow the beaten path. Nowadays, women, especially those who are attractive, are never short of suitors. If you only use clichéd pick-up lines like "What are you doing?" or "Have you eaten?", it's really hard to stand out. You need to learn to use interesting jokes or poetic sweet talk to catch her attention. For example, you could send a funny joke: "One day I had a high fever, and my mom touched my forehead and said, 'So hot,' then my dad slapped me and said, 'You little brat, having a fever and still daring to burn your mom.'" This kind of humor often makes women feel good about you. Of course, jokes aren't just to be sent randomly; you need to accumulate some high-quality material to use at the right moment.
Lastly, maintain a normal mindset during dates. Many men are smooth and confident in online chats but become extremely nervous during offline dates, stuttering and even fumbling. Actually, this nervousness often comes from caring too much about the other person. Remember, women are ordinary people too; they also have flaws and shortcomings. The more you worry about gains and losses, the more you hide your strengths. So, during dates, treat the woman as an ordinary friend, relax, and interact naturally. This way, you can show your most authentic and interesting side.
Speaking of which, I recall a netizen"s comment: "Shared, hope it helps!" Indeed, pursuing women isn't that hard; the key is to master the right methods. As long as you put effort into understanding women's psychology and learn to attract them with humor and confidence, your chances of success will greatly increase.
In conclusion, love shouldn"t be too utilitarian or too anxious. Maintain a normal mindset, learn to manage relationships with skills, and you'll find that finding your ideal girlfriend isn't as hard as you might think. I hope my sharing helps you, and I wish everyone success in finding love soon!
