Girls chatting with you in a perfunctory manner
1. Indifferent reply
When you initiate a conversation with a girl During the conversation, she may respond indifferently. She may simply answer the question without any desire to engage in discussion. Her responses may be short and succinct, lacking emotion and detail.
For example:
You: The weather is so nice today!
Her: Yeah.
This kind of reply shows that she is not very interested in you and is just coping with your conversation.
2. Frequently interrupts the conversation
If a girl frequently interrupts the conversation or frequently leaves the chat window, it may mean that she does not really care about communicating with you. She may make excuses to end the conversation, such as having to do other things, being busy, etc.
For example:
You: What’s new recently?
Her: It’s okay, I have to do my homework quickly.
This behavior shows that she is not interested in maintaining a long conversation with you and treats you as insignificant.
3. Delay in replying
A girl may deliberately delay replying to your message, which shows that she is not interested in you. She may take a long time to respond to your message, or she may not respond at all.
For example:
You: Do you have any plans?
(A few hours later)
Her: No special plans.
This behavior shows that she does not respond positively to you and cares less about you.
4. Changing the topic
When you try to get to know a girl better or establish a closer connection with her, she may quickly change the subject. She may avoid answering personal questions or simply answer them without discussing them.
For example:
You: What is your favorite sport?
Her: I like all kinds of sports.
This lack of specific details indicates that she is not willing to share more personal information with you.
5. Not initiating a conversation
If a girl never initiates a conversation with you, but only responds when you reach out to her, it may mean that she does not take you seriously. as an important person. She might just be waiting for someone else, more interesting or important, to come to her.
For example:
You: How have you been lately?
(A few days later)
Her: Fortunately, quite busy.
This kind of behavior shows that she cares very little about you and is just coping with your conversation.
Signs of a girl using you as a backup
6. Only contact you when needed
If a girl only needs help, comfort or adviceIf she takes the initiative to contact you only once and has almost no communication at other times, she may regard you as a backup. She will only contact you when she needs it.
For example:
She: I have encountered some troubles recently, can you help me solve it?
In this case, she just uses your ability to solve the problem and does not really care about your feelings and needs.
7. Be more friendly to other members of the opposite sex
If a girl is friendlier and more intimate to other members of the opposite sex than you are, then she may regard you as a backup. She may take the initiative to develop closer relationships with other people while keeping you at a distance.
For example:
She: I met a very interesting person recently and we often hang out together.
In this case, her investment in other members of the opposite sex is obviously higher than her investment in you.
8. Unwillingness to disclose the relationship
If a girl is unwilling to disclose your relationship, or avoids interacting with you in public, then she may regard you as a backup. She may not want others to know about your connection.
For example:
You: Can we go to that party together?
Her: Sorry, I already have arrangements.
This kind of answer shows that she is not willing to show intimacy with you in public.
9. Her feelings for you are vague and unclear
If a girl’s feelings towards you are vague, sometimes enthusiastic and sometimes cold, then she may regard you as a spare tire. She may not be clear about her feelings for you and give conflicting signals.
For example:
Her: I really like being with you, but we can only stay friends.
In this case, her emotional attitude towards you is unclear, giving you hope but also disappointing you.
10. Unwilling to invest time and energy
If a girl is unwilling to invest time and energy for you and just casually responds to your requests, then she may regard you as a spare tire . She probably has no real interest in forming a deep connection with you.
For example:
You: Can we go to the movies together?
Her: Sorry, I'm too busy and don't have time.
This kind of answer shows that she is not willing to make time and energy for you.
