Recently, I had a conversation with a friend about two particularly interesting topics: one about PUA in relationships, and the other about the common phrase women use, "I'm full." At first glance, these topics seem unrelated, but upon closer examination, they both involve a phenomenon of "self-deception." Today, I want to share my thoughts on this and also discuss the comments from netizens to see what everyone thinks.
First, let's talk about PUA. Originally, PUA stood for "Pick-Up Artist," teaching men how to pursue women. However, at some point, it became synonymous with psychological manipulation. Many women in relationships sense something is off but choose to deceive themselves, believing that their partner loves them, albeit in a problematic way. The result? They end up getting hurt.
A commenter said, "Is this PUA?? This is just ordinary male control." I think, whether it's PUA or control, the essence is a lack of respect for the other person. As another commenter put it, "When you meet someone like this, just break up. It's not psychological manipulation." Indeed, mutual respect is crucial in a relationship. If your partner constantly makes you give up your dreams or tries to control your life, is the relationship really worth continuing?
Another commenter mentioned, "People who grow up in happy families are less likely to be PUAed." This makes a lot of sense. Those raised in healthy environments often have a clearer understanding of what true love is, as opposed to control. Those who lack emotional security are more prone to falling into this "self-deception" trap.
Now, let's discuss the common phrase women use, "I'm full." This topic is quite interesting because many women, even when they're full, will say, "I can eat a little more." This behavior is also a form of "self-deception." We tell ourselves, "One more bite won't hurt," only to regret it when we're overstuffed.
A commenter joked, "When a woman says 'I'm full,' it really means 'I can eat another bowl.'" This hits the nail on the head. This "self-deception" isn't limited to eating; it often appears in other aspects of life. For example, when we're exhausted but tell ourselves, "Just a little longer," or when we know something is bad for us but can't resist doing it.
In the end, whether it's PUA in relationships or the "I'm full" in eating, both reflect a common issue: we are sometimes too quick to deceive ourselves. This might be due to a fear of facing reality or being accustomed to certain patterns. Regardless, learning to acknowledge our feelings and respect our needs is paramount.
Finally, I want to ask you all: Have you encountered similar situations? Do you choose to continue "self-deceiving," or do you bravely face reality? Feel free to share your stories and opinions in the comments. Let's discuss together!
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