Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of relationships, I suddenly realized that many girls around me have, to varying degrees, encountered situations involving PUA (Pick-Up Artist). Honestly, hearing these stories really made my heart ache for them. Today, I want to talk about this topic and share some of my thoughts.
When it comes to PUA, some friends might not be very familiar with it. Originally, it referred to pick-up techniques, but now it's more commonly used to describe a form of psychological manipulation. As "若何不染" mentioned in the comments, those who have experienced it can be left with deep scars. I myself have heard a story from a friend whose ex constantly belittled her, saying she wasn't good enough and didn't deserve him. Gradually, she began to doubt herself and even gave up on many of her original dreams. Looking back, she said that period felt like a nightmare.
In fact, PUA tactics often start with small things. For example, demanding that you delete all your opposite-sex friends or constantly belittling your work and hobbies. As "彭姑娘读书" rightly pointed out in the comments, why can't the other person do the same? A healthy relationship should be equal, not one-sided compromises and concessions.
When it comes to finding a partner, I believe the most important thing is to keep a clear mind. Don't lower your standards just because you're eager to be in a relationship. As "沐尐希" aptly said in the comments, if you encounter someone who doesn't respect you, you should decisively say goodbye. Everyone has their own social circles and pursuits, and there's no need to abandon yourself to please others.
In fact, I think the most important thing in a relationship is mutual respect and growth together. As mentioned in the article, a good partner should be someone who helps you progress, not someone who makes you give up on your dreams. "一心一意铅笔ZM" mentioned in the comments that people who grow up in happy families are less likely to fall victim to PUA, which I find very insightful. Such individuals often have a clearer understanding of what healthy love is and are more adept at recognizing unhealthy relationships.
Finally, I want to say that whether you're single or in a relationship, always remember to love yourself. Don't let others' judgments define you, and don't give up on your pursuits for the sake of love. After all, someone who truly loves you will support you in becoming the best version of yourself.
I hope today's sharing is helpful to everyone. If you have similar experiences or thoughts, feel free to share them in the comments. Let's encourage each other and become more confident and independent individuals!
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