Recently, I had a chat with a few close girlfriends about the topic of love, and everyone had a lot of feelings to share. Honestly, love nowadays isn't as simple as it used to be, especially for women. A slight misstep can lead to trouble. Today, I want to share some of my observations and thoughts, hoping to help sisters who are in love or preparing to be.
First, never lend money or take out loans for your boyfriend just because you feel soft-hearted for a moment. A friend of mine suffered from this; her boyfriend said his business was struggling and asked her to help with a loan. The money was lent, but the boyfriend disappeared. Now, she has to pay high-interest rates every month, under immense pressure. A netizen in the comments section put it well: "A little more rationality can avoid a lot of unnecessary harm." It's true; no matter how beautiful love is, one must stay clear-headed.
Speaking of premarital pregnancy, this topic is really heavy. A sister I know had to rush into marriage because of premarital pregnancy. Her married life is not happy, and the man's family keeps bringing it up. As someone in the comments said: "Premarital pregnancy indeed makes women more passive and causes more harm, especially physically. Men can basically walk away unscathed." So sisters, you must protect yourselves and not gamble your entire life on a moment of impulse.
Another point I find particularly important is never to give up your career. A cousin of mine quit her job after her husband said, "I'll take care of you." Now, she has to live under her husband's scrutiny, even hesitating for a long time before buying a durian. A comment in the section was particularly poignant: "Who wasn't the little princess at home, living a carefree life? Why should we be blamed by others?" So, financial independence is really important; it's our backbone.
Lastly, I want to say, never be the third party. This not only hurts others but also yourself. A classmate of mine once became the third party because she fell for a married man. Not only did her reputation suffer, but she also nearly fell into depression. Someone in the comments said: "Being the third party is something everyone hates because of it, a good family is destroyed." This is very true; we must learn to cherish ourselves and not lose our dignity for so-called love.
After all this, the most important thing is to learn to love ourselves. Love is beautiful, but we must remember that we are the ones who will accompany ourselves to the end. I hope every woman can meet the right person, but before that, you must protect yourself, stay clear-headed, and independent. After all, our happiness is in our own hands.
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