Recently, I had a gathering with a few university classmates, and when the topic of campus romance came up, everyone couldn't help but laugh. Some said that university romance is the purest, while others mentioned how naive they were back then, easily deceived. As someone who has been through it, I feel it's necessary to discuss this topic with everyone.
First, let's talk about the benefits of university romance. Indeed, the cost of dating on campus is the lowest. I remember back then, the most luxurious date with my girlfriend was going to the cinema near the school to watch a movie, which cost only a few dozen yuan for both of us. A meal in the cafeteria could be very satisfying for just over ten yuan, and studying in the library on weekends saved a lot of money. Unlike now, where dates often involve visiting trendy restaurants, which really strains the wallet.
However, university romance isn"t that easy either. I've noticed that many guys fall into the misconception that they must pursue outgoing, very popular girls. In fact, those who seem introverted and quiet are often more easily moved by sincerity. I had a roommate like this; he pursued a very quiet girl, and now they are married with children.
When it comes to pursuing girls, I think the most important thing is to have your own career and goals. Back in university, I started writing a blog. Although not many people read it at the time, I just loved writing. My classmates thought I was foolish, writing every day without earning money. But I persisted for six years, and now I can support myself through writing. People with goals are particularly attractive and more likely to find a like-minded partner.
However, one must also be wary of emotional traps in university romance. The term PUA is very popular now, essentially a form of mental control. Some guys use various tactics to manipulate girls' emotions, making them feel inadequate and then obedient. A friend of mine experienced this; her partner always belittled her, saying she wasn't pretty or smart enough, which made her very insecure. Fortunately, she woke up in time and decisively broke up.
Some commenters say that PUA is just ordinary men"s desire for control. But I believe that true love should be about mutual respect and progress. If the other person always demands that you give up your dreams or restricts your social circle, you should be cautious. As the netizen "Mu Xiaoxi" said, everyone has their own circle and cannot always revolve around one person.
Finally, I want to say that although university romance is beautiful, don"t be in too much of a hurry. Instead of spending too much time on romance, it's better to improve yourself. When your career succeeds, the right person will naturally appear. Like my current girlfriend, whom I met after my career stabilized. She appreciates my persistence, and I admire her independence; such a relationship is more enduring.
In summary, university romance should be sincere but also clear-headed. Cherish the right person when you meet them, and cut losses in time when you meet the wrong one. After all, love should make both people better, not consume each other.
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