During the process of chatting with girls, many boys ignore the girls' emotions because they are too active in chatting topics. Not only do they get labeled as straight men, but they also make girls have no desire to reply. So how to change the way straight men chat so that girls are more willing to chat?
1. Guide girls to take the initiative Participate in chat
When many boys are chatting with girls, they will either ask the girl "what are you doing" or "have you eaten?", or even seize one question and keep asking it, such as asking the girl Have you eaten? What did you eat? Who made it? Is it delicious? They kept asking questions, as if breaking the casserole and asking the end. This is actually a typical straight man chat.
Although the purpose of asking continuous questions is to alleviate the embarrassment of having no topic, the effect of these questions raised without thinking often makes the atmosphere even more embarrassing, even reaching freezing point.
Because the process of you constantly asking questions is constantly asking for value from girls, forcing girls to give you answers, and asking itself is relatively boring and cannot bring girls a positive emotional experience. Asking questions constantly erodes the enthusiasm and enthusiasm of girls, and will only make girls feel bored and choose to end the chat.
Therefore, the first step to change the way straight men chat is to change the demanding chatting style.
For example, this kind of guided chat allows girls to participate in the chat:
Male: hi, small town girl
Female: Hello
Male: Aren’t you curious why I call you that?
Female: Why?
Male: Because at first glance, it feels like Xiaojiabiyu< /p>
This kind of chat can not only relieve the awkward atmosphere, but also won’t expose your sense of need, and naturally you won’t be labeled as a straight man.
2. Differentiate priorities in chat
In addition to unlimited questions in chat, there is also a comparison The typical way straight men chat is to prioritize some things in the chat. To give a relatively simple example, a girl said, "I saw a puppy when I went to the hospital. Guess what happened?" "
At this time, most straight men will only reply literally "What happened?"
You know, in the girl's words, her first The first priority is "I went to the hospital" and the second priority is "What happened?" Therefore, the correct answer should be: "What happened to you? Why did you go to the hospital? Are you okay?"
So, if you want to change the way straight men chat,Formula, the second step we need to do is to understand the priority of girls’ words in chat.
Sometimes when a girl is unhappy, she will not say it directly, but will express it to you in some metaphorical ways, such as "I have no appetite for anything to eat today."
If you want to understand a girl’s subtext, you must find the starting point of a girl’s emotions when communicating. After all, when you are in a good mood, everything you see is in color, and when you are in a bad mood, you see everything in color.
At the same time, girls are also reserved creatures. In the early stages of a relationship, they will not directly reveal their situation to you. They will often express it to you through some parallel events.
So when chatting with a girl, don’t always use your habitual thinking to reply to the girl. Instead, ask yourself a few “whys” in your mind. Why would she talk about this topic at this time? Why did she suddenly change her tone of voice now? If you think more about the motivation of speaking from a girl's perspective, many chatting problems will be solved.