For girls who met through strike-up, because they don’t know much about it, mistakes in chatting can easily arouse the girl’s resentment. Therefore, boys often walk on eggshells when chatting. So how should we chat after a successful strike-up?
How to chat after successfully striking up a conversation?
1. Topic entry
Through avatar, nickname, signature, space dynamics, circle of friends, message board Wait for public information to find her hobbies, special dislikes, and some personal habits.
Example 1: If you find out
①: She likes to listen to Jay Chou.
②: She likes to listen to Wanqing.
③: She likes to play badminton.
④: She likes American TV series.
⑤: She hates Lu Han.
⑥: She hates unclear ambiguous relationships between men and women.
⑦: She especially doesn’t like eating pineapples.
⑧: She has the habit of drinking a cup of hot water after getting up every day.
⑨: She has the habit of running every night.
Which topic will you choose to start with?
The correct answers are ②, ④, ⑥, ⑧.
In the early stage of topic cutting, niche or in-depth categories were given priority, and a situation of "meeting old friends in a foreign land" and "collusion" was formed.
Of course, don’t forget the other options as they will still be of great use in the later stages.
2. Drive girls
①: The knowledge should be broad, you don’t have to know everything, but what you I can say a few words.
②: Be interesting and witty, and have a unique brain circuit to stand out. What is tested here is the reserve of jokes and on-the-spot reaction. Don’t use bad jokes, they will only make you look more boring. The form of humor in the early stage is mainly self-deprecating, and in the middle and later stages, it is mainly self-deprecating. Of course, it is the kind of indecent kind.
③: Be a qualified supporter in the early stage, and don’t overwhelm the guest.
When a topic ends, immediately find the keywords to start the next topic from her recent messages. The transition should be natural.
Be a qualified teaser in the middle and later stages, and don’t be silent. You can start sharing your interesting stories, but you should pay attention to the reaction of the other person and make adjustments at any time.
④: Refuse to talk awkwardly. When you find that the topic cannot go on, please find an excuse and leave quickly. If you say another word, you may die.
⑤: Think from someone else’s perspective. After you type a line or when you are about to say a sentence, first put yourself into her position. If you find that this line of text gives people a feeling of "I don't know what to reply to", then delete this line of text. , type another line and repeat the steps.
Believe me, everyone likes a smooth chat experience.
⑥: Be one step ahead. This level of difficulty is high. You must first reasonably predict her opinion on something, and express your opinion before she speaks. This approach will create the illusion of "three views being in harmony, tacit understanding, and meeting a close friend by chance."
⑦: You can give her an exclusive nickname, the kind that only you will call her that.
⑧: Find a few interesting jokes from previous chat records or interviews. These jokes are so interesting and must not be wasted. Don’t worry, repeat them, they won’t suck.
⑨: No matter what, you must respect her and know how to joke with her. This is the bottom line.
3. Control the field
①: Confession is not the clarion call to charge, but the golden retreat in victory. . After all, since ancient times, there has always been a reason why there are more confessions and fewer marriages. When you come up and say, "I, Long Aotian, will chase you from today on," I'm afraid you are not a fool.
②: In the early stage, you can take the initiative to chat every day, but in the middle and later stages, you must restrain your impulse and wait for her to come to you. If she doesn't take the initiative, it means that what you did before was not good enough. Don't let her think that you just talk to her when you have nothing to do all day long.
③: Create completely controllable small conflicts, small contradictions and small cold wars, grasp the degree of control, and if you do this well, you can quickly improve your emotional foundation.
④: Create a strong contrast, not hot and cold, but hot and cold sometimes.
Example 2:
We went out to play together and wanted to buy fruit. When passing by a pineapple, you can casually say, "I don't like eating pineapples either. I don't know why this anti-human thing exists."
When you pass by the playground, you can say, "I really don't understand why these people are running at night. They obviously do it early in the morning."
Psychological distance is very important. Being too aggressive will easily make girls wary.
As long as you walk in too much at once, you must step back at the right time. If you keep walking in, it will cause a kneeling and licking situation. If you keep backing off, she will think you are a fool.
During the process of pacing back and forth, you will be surprised to find that you can talk about everything, and you are even so close that you can hug her with just a stretch of your hand.
4. Ming Jin retreats
Girls make decisions based on emotion.
Small things are often the ones that can affect your mood the most. Don’t just talk about love all day long. Do more. She can see it even if she’s not blind.
Until one day, she hummed, "Obviously you love me too, there's no reason why love can't work out." In fact, she still didn't understand why love couldn't work out.
But this does not prevent her from becoming your girlfriend in the next moment.
She didn’t think about anything. Anyway, just follow your mood. This is what girls are like.
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