Everyone should have heard of what love brain means. It means that a person who is usually very smart and sensible has an IQ of zero when he is in love and suffers a lot of emotional losses. In fact, both boys and girls have love brain. Let me share with you guys how to avoid love brain when you are in love.
1. Life is not only about love
The reason why many boys are love-minded is because they take love too seriously and ignore career, love, family, etc. in life. Social activities and interests should all have a place in your heart. When your life is fulfilling, you won't worry that your girlfriend will stop loving you because you think less. In fact, when your girlfriend feels that you are living a fulfilling life, she will want to enter your life and actively invest in you. Only then can your relationship be maintained for a long time.
2. Don’t make ineffective investment
It is normal to invest in your girlfriend in your relationship. Many boys have indeed paid a lot for this, but have you considered the consequences? True love is a cycle of positive interaction. Your girlfriend can feel your dedication, and she will repay you with her own love. Such investment is effective investment.
Many love-minded boys only know how to invest blindly, but they don’t know that their investment is actually invalid investment. So what is invalid investment? The editor roughly summarizes what ineffective investments you may make:
① Think about the other person’s thoughts
② Think about each other day and night
③ Fantasy about each other Plant good or bad possibilities
④Count down what you have given
⑤Compare her with others
⑥Adopt her way of not catching a cold Express your feelings
⑦Overexpress yourself
⑧Extend yourself to prepare a surprise (at least it is inefficient)
⑨Make a vow that you believe to be true
⑩Adhering to the belief of being affectionate and giving to win people's hearts
The above practices will not only fail to make your girlfriend love you more, but will make you sink deeper and deeper, unable to extricate yourself. So, reflect on yourself, make your own list, and stop this behavior.
3. Learn to express emotions and needs
How many boys are unwilling to express themselves when they have been wronged? Those who say nothing in front of their girlfriends feel that they can just bear the trivial matters of being a manly man, and there is no need to speak out and make their girlfriends worry. But in fact, sometimes men also need to express their emotions and needs. If they are happy or unhappy, they should also let their girlfriend know, instead of expecting the other party to understand you unconditionally.
Those who love love shouldEither you are a bold person (who likes to blame and force others), or you are a polite person (who likes to hide things and wait for you to notice and fix them). These are not healthy communication habits. The former will make your girlfriend feel negative, Produce confrontation, which will make your girlfriend feel overwhelmed and confused.
Neither boys nor girls can fall in love. After all, falling in love is never a simple thing.
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