"Love is not something you can buy if you want to buy it..." In the same way, dating is not something you can date a girl just because you want to date her. If a girl doesn't feel good about you yet, it is very likely that you When we ask her out, she will reject her. How should we deal with the embarrassment of rejection?
Being rejected by a girl on a date Reply generously after rejection
1. Let nature take its course
It is natural to be rejected on a date. Before you ask for a date, you should think about how to deal with this unexpected situation and be prepared. Some words to respond or follow what the girl said, instead of making the air suddenly quiet and making each other feel embarrassed.
For example:
Girl: It doesn’t feel right to go out with you not long after we met.
Boy: That’s right, I didn’t think carefully. , but I am really happy during this period of time with you, and how do I look like a bad person
Girl: Haha
Faced with a girl’s rejection, don’t choose to continue to ask the girl Reason for rejection and rationalize what the girl said. Find a reasonable reason for her, keep it simple and don't be too exaggerated, just to give her a step down. If the girl really doesn’t want to come out, don’t continue the invitation at this time, but change the topic to a lighter topic.
2. Put yourself in someone else's shoes
If a girl refuses your date, think about why you are attracted to her When rejecting, learn to put yourself in someone else's shoes and express your understanding and approval of a girl's rejection behavior with high emotional intelligence. This will make girls feel that you are mature and considerate.
For example:
Girls: Sorry, I have to take the xx exam these days, so I may not be able to hang out with you.
Boys: I heard that this exam is very difficult. It’s a difficult test. How are you doing in your studies? Are you sure about it?
Girls: It’s okay, but I’m very nervous.
Boys: Being nervous means you take the exam seriously. Come on, take the exam well and you will definitely pass.
Regardless of whether a girl really wants to take the exam or not, responding to her in this way will make the girl feel that you respect her and will not give her a sense of oppression.
3. Ambiguous invitation
When a girl refuses your date, try not to continue inviting girls. For some girls who are not very good at rejecting people, you can Then send out a vague invitation and leave the problem to her to solve. (The concession effect of psychology is actually applied here)
For example:
Girl: Sorry, something happened today, let’s go out together next time~
Boy: Oh, is it such a coincidence? I should have asked you in advance.
Girl: Yeah.
Boy: But, there will be one next weekA good movie is coming out, will you be free then?
Girl: Uh, okay.
Reasons for being rejected by girls on dates
1. Lack of attraction
Yes A very ironic saying - even an ugly girl is not short of lickers.
The girl you like is likely to be liked by others. If you ask her out to play, others may ask her out, so why should a girl go on a date with you?
When you are right If a girl is not attractive, she is likely to reject your date, so you have to think about what value you can provide during a date? Most animals like humans seek advantages and avoid disadvantages.
2. The content of the date lacks points of interest
For example, a girl hates hot pot, but you ask her to eat Haidilao; a girl is a girl who likes karaoke, but you ask her out. Go to a comic exhibition; the girl is a girl who loves to play games, but you ask her to go skiing...
When you are completely unclear about the girl’s interests and hobbies, it is very likely that the content of your date will not be suitable for you. For girls, there will be a very lack of interest points. Girls are not interested in the content of the date. How can they agree to your date? Are you going to go on a date and then be stunned?
To avoid being rejected on a date, you need to You capture the girl's interests.
3. Girls don’t feel safe about you
Why do girls feel insecure about you? Because you have not established a corresponding trust mechanism in the process of getting along with girls, and you cannot make them feel safe. The girl completely believes that you will not do anything to her.
The following are some important factors in building trust: reliability (strength), honesty, self-disclosure, confidence, respect, etc.
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