If you want to have a good chat with a girl, you must give her the motivation to continue chatting with you. However, most boys’ chats are too boring and boring. Girls lose interest in chatting after only a few words. So how can we make girls interested in chatting?
1. A sense of security
When you first start chatting with a girl, you must give her a sense of security. This is the prerequisite for the chat to continue. In Maslow's needs theory, safety needs come second. If we give girls a sense of security in the early stage of chatting with girls, it will be very easy to ask girls out later.
How can we give girls a sense of security when chatting? On the one hand, we should not expose our own needs, and on the other hand, we should communicate with each other sincerely.
When we want to seduce a girl, we must have a sense of need, but if your need is too obvious, it will give the girl the feeling that you are very hungry. You are not flirting with her to fall in love with her, but To get her body. Even if a girl likes you teasing her, she will be intimidated by your sense of need, or you can only indulge in sex online, but you can't date a girl. This is the result of exposing too much of your need.
Then how can you not expose your neediness too obviously, but also let girls feel that you are interested in her? It is to establish a framework for girls to chase you. For example, when a girl sends you a sexy photo, you can say: "Oh my god, how can she be so beautiful?" The girl may say: "Really?" You then say: "I'm talking about lipstick! "This kind of chat will not reveal your own needs, but it can also arouse girls' emotions to fight with you.
You treat me with sincerity, and I will repay you with sincerity. Only sincerity can gain the trust and favor of girls. If you are often glib when chatting, and everything in your words reveals that you are unreliable, I believe that women are following you. After you chat with me for the first time, I will never want to chat with you a second time.
2. Emotional chat
When chatting, you need to learn to mobilize girls’ emotions. Girls are emotional animals. , instead of being like a straightforward science and engineering man. In the process of speaking, you must bring emotions (praise, ridicule, sympathy, jealousy, suppression, humor, teasing, etc.). From ordinary relationships to lovers, you must learn to use this speaking skill. Many boys are always straightforward and ask questions about this and that. As a result, they annoy the girl. Instead of creating interesting emotions, they create trouble. Who is still interested in chatting with you?
3. Providing value
If Jack Ma comes to chat with you, you will definitely be very happy because you can get value by chatting with Jack Ma. , you must be very willing to chat with him, this is the charm of providing value.
Similarly, you are chatting with girlsWhen it's cool, if you can continue to provide value to girls, girls will be willing to continue chatting with you. For example, you can bring a girl into a good mood. As long as a girl chats with you, she will laugh. When she encounters something unhappy, she will definitely think of you at the first time. If you are also very good at flirting, The switch for girls to be attracted to you will turn on.
In the mechanism of sexual attraction, providing good emotions is also one aspect of providing value. If you can continuously provide girls with good emotions when chatting or dating, for example, if you are very humorous and very optimistic when encountering things, girls will become addicted to your good emotions because you have stimulated the girl's attraction switch.
4. Don’t always chat awkwardly, keep a good circle of friends
Sometimes, you have to talk too much in words. It will look pale, and emoticons are a very useful thing.
When your stock of emoticons can support the entire chat, the other party will also be interested in "Where did you get so many emoticons?"
Good emoticons can bring different effects to chats. Therefore, it is still beneficial to collect more good emoticons, such as: social hot topics, cute and heart-warming ones, funny and interesting ones. of.
Also, don’t frequently post meaningless posts to Moments.
The meaningless circle of friends consists of all kinds of complaints, negative emotions, non-Chinese, shocking, and extremely poor pixel pictures.
Think about it, if there is such a person who is unbridled in your circle of friends, posts advertisements, and does not repost people who are not Chinese, will you block him?
< p> So, if you want to post, post some photos of food and travel scenery. In short, make the photos beautiful and meaningful, so as to attract others' attention.5. Chat about common topics
I think you must have encountered such a situation in your life, that is, when chatting with others, you said a lot of things, but Others don't seem to be interested in it and don't answer your questions at all. This means that the topic you are talking about is not of interest to others.
If you want girls to be willing to chat with you, then you have to tell them what girls want to hear or topics that girls care about. For example, if a girl likes to eat delicious food, you can use food to start the conversation with the girl, "I didn't expect you to be a foodie." Use humor to start the conversation with the girl. But if you like to talk about basketball, but girls are not interested in basketball, but you talk about basketball, you can imagine how such a chat can continue?
Want to continue the chat with girls? , we can’t focus on ourselves, find common topics through chatting, and then keep the chat going through common topics, and then connect with each other through common topics. If you want to attract girls through chatting, you must make the topic about you and For girls, if you improve your relationship with the girl little by little, the girl will fall in love with chatting with you.
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