Many boys chat with girls on WeChat and don’t know what to say when they meet and chat offline. This is also the reason why many men and women “die after meeting” because men and women decide to be together. In addition to having a decent appearance, you also need to be able to chat happily and get along well. Let’s share with you how to avoid being cold when talking on a first date?
1. Create a good chatting atmosphere
Girls are actually extremely sensitive to the atmosphere. If a boy is cold on the first date, it is because you are afraid of making a mistake in front of the girl, because you are nervous. There is nothing to say in the cold scene, girls can actually feel it. In fact, it’s okay for a man and a woman to have a cold chat during their first date, they just have nothing to say. However, it would not be good if you leave a girl with a lack of confidence because of the cold chat. So boys should not be too nervous on the first date. They should create a good chatting atmosphere. As for how to create a chatting atmosphere? If you are not too enthusiastic about talking, then you can guide the girl to talk and use topics that the girl is interested in. You only need to be responsible for listening and occasionally echoing the girl. As long as you are a good listener, you will create a harmonious atmosphere with the girl, and the girl will naturally start to talk. When she finds out that she keeps saying what you haven't said, she will naturally ask you, this creates a harmonious atmosphere, and she will talk to you. After talking a lot about her trust in you and her curiosity, there will be no problem if you talk to her casually.
2. Find topics that everyone is interested in
No matter how talkative a girl is, she cannot always be talkative. This is all being said by a girl who is dating you for the first time! This means that boys can find some topics to talk about that both of them are interested in. So how do you know what topics girls are interested in? You can pay attention when she talks and quickly catch her attention. . People who are keen on talking about the NBA must like basketball, and people who always like to talk about Korean dramas must often watch Korean dramas. This is common sense, and you can follow the topics they give. But if you need to speak first, you can introduce the topic like this-"Have you heard of...", "I think...it's pretty good", "Have you paid attention to the recent...", of course this It takes a very broad knowledge base to chat with all kinds of girls with different hobbies. So, expand your knowledge and don’t just live in your own world!
3. Learn to expand the topic
When chatting with a girl on a first date, no matter how profound the topic is, always When the conversation comes to an end, if the boy does not expand the topic at this time, he is likely to fall into the awkward situation of being left alone. For example, a girl mentioned that she likes to grow flowers and tells a lot about her experience in growing flowers. Then at the end, you can say, "I know there is a flower market in XXX. How about we take a look at it together on the weekend? I heard that there is a flower market in XXX." side basinThere are a lot of varieties." If you are really a girl who loves to grow flowers, I will definitely be happy to chat with you.
< p> There is no fundamental secret to how to avoid being cold when chatting with a girl on a first date. Boys should treat girls as ordinary friends and talk as they normally would, so that there will be no psychological burden.
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