To make your first date a smooth one, all you have to do is talk about something, do something, or look forward to something together. Then pay attention to dating taboos: on the first date, keep conservative and appropriate topics, for example, don’t ask about past love history, sexual topics, etc. Also, be careful not to teach the other person a lesson. Let me give you a detailed analysis on how to avoid being cold during the first date?
1. Chat topics that are not cold on the first date
1. Recent updates in the circle of friends (yours or the other party’s)
For example, a girl’s recent posts If you take a photo from a trip, you can talk about the situation there, briefly ask about some feelings, and then make a positive comment.
Ask her for travel tips, or ask her to travel with her next time.
When a girl names a male star, you can answer:
"Wow, he's pretty handsome. Why do you like him? It's not all because he's handsome, right?"
The following answers may be of reference significance to you, and you can also better understand girls’ preferences or aesthetics. If the conversation is harmonious, you can also talk about your favorite celebrity and why you like them. This back and forth is enough to chat for a long time.
2. Girls’ opinions and views
Everyone likes to express their opinions and views. When you ask a girl her opinion on a certain issue, she will feel that she is special and that you care about her thoughts. Therefore, boys can ask girls for their opinions and opinions by choosing questions that girls have something to say, such as:
"Can you recommend a good men's perfume for me?"
"Do girls like having a gay honey?"
These questions can increase the topic on the one hand, and on the other hand, they can help you have a comprehensive understanding of girls' views.
3. Things that girls are very interested in or are good at
Everyone has a lot to say about things that they are passionate about, and things that they are good at often She will talk endlessly (human beings are naturally good at teaching others), so when you find that a girl is particularly interested in a certain field, you can direct the topic there and let her express her thoughts freely. For example, raising pets, cosplay, singing, volunteer activities, stock trading, etc. are all good topics.
2. A place where the first date is not cool
If your life is very monotonous, you may be on a date You will also encounter cold situations (when you meet a passive girl or her life is very simple)tune). A large section above describes the problem of chatting. In fact, what should you do if you don’t know how to chat? What can you do on a date to keep yourself cool?
It is also OK to ask the other person to go to places with relatively high energy fields. For example, amusement parks, theme parks, etc. use the external environment to offset the embarrassment of not being able to speak. And not talking most of the time may be a kind of beauty. For example, if you go to a movie together, you just need to watch the movie quietly during the process. When the movie is over, you can share your thoughts after watching it.
Similar high-energy places include small bars, bars, shopping malls, foot massages, sports activities, etc. In such places, it will not be embarrassing if you don't talk. Open a certain group APP, there are more examples.
If you are afraid of the cold spot on a first date, doing something together is also one of the important ways to effectively alleviate the cold spot, such as DIY or something. However, the shortcomings are also obvious: it cannot achieve inner communication. However, on the first date, both parties were not indifferent and got along well with each other. This was already a very good start.
Finally, if you want to talk about how to avoid being cold on the first date, you can look forward to a smooth ending together and look forward to something together...for example If you and the girl both have certain hobbies, such as a certain singer's concert, you can make an appointment to go together. For another example, go to an amusement park on Halloween and enjoy the thrill of being frightened by ghosts (provided you don’t get scared yourself). Or, for example, having some surprises and gifts on your birthday can create this feeling. Expecting and accomplishing something together at a specific time is an effective way to avoid cold moments and embarrassment.
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