Nowadays, the contact between boys and girls is basically through WeChat chat. After the relationship develops to a certain level through WeChat chat, further invitations, upgrades of the relationship, etc. can be made.
But most boys have finally found the girl they like, but they can't cross the chat gap. In fact, chatting with girls is very simple. , as long as you give her the "feeling" and "emotion" she wants, you can easily pursue the girl you love.
First, let’s look at a failure case:
In this conversation, we took out each sentence individually and couldn't find any mistakes, but when put together, the atmosphere was very embarrassing.
Boys are trying to find common topics, and hope to bring the relationship closer between them by praising girls. It is understandable that the starting point is right, but they cannot get positive feedback from girls.
Why is this?
Think carefully about whether you are in this state when chatting.
1. Keep asking girls questions
There are countless boys who ignore girls’ emotions and keep asking questions when chatting. The most taboo in a warm chat is to be in the same place for a long time. This "question-answering mode" will make people feel dull and boring.
Put yourself in my shoes, if you were a girl, would you still be interested in answering this chat?
2. Excessive flattery and compliments
< p> "Little beauty", "You are the most beautiful", "Pretty people always have selfies on their phones", these words are enough to disgust a girl who is not familiar with you 100 times.There is nothing wrong with girls liking to hear sweet words, but praising her in this way is too superficial and will annoy girls~
In view of the above common mistakes, you can change the way to make girls Love chatting with you.
You must know that chatting is not just for you to chat. You have to show yourself to the girl, for example, let her know your advantages and know that you have common hobbies and topics.
You also need to give feedback on what she said. Asking questions is not the purpose, communication is. When a girl answers your question, she does not want you to continue asking her another question, but she wants you to give her feedback on what she said!
Error demonstration:
"What are you doing?" (question)
"Read a book"
"What book?" (No feedback + continue to ask)
"Live"
"Does it look good?"
Correct demonstration:
"Look at Moments, you are reading a book." (Statement instead of question)
"Yes "Yeah"
"Which book? I want to list it in my reading plan" (show that you and her have common interests, and ask for recommendations instead of asking questions)
"Alive, Yu Hua's, I was moved and sad at the same time"
"I just finished watching it a while ago! Especially when I saw only Lao Niu and Fugui at the end, I, a grown man, wanted to cry." ( Give feedback on the girl’s answers. Even if you haven’t read the book, you can search it on Baidu based on the title of the book.)
Maybe you really have no topic to talk about, but don’t keep asking. When you want to say something to her, When you understand, you can ask one or two questions, and then you will be asked to "show + feedback".
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