Many people feel that by putting in a lot of effort to add a little more variety to the relationship between two people, they can increase the freshness of the relationship and extend the shelf life of the relationship. But this is not the case.
The best novelty in love is actually "developing an idol". This sense of surprise is the most attractive: continuing to watch a person continue to grow and develop, constantly gaining new strengths and The advantage appears before your eyes.
This will not only continue to give this person a sense of freshness, but also firmly grasp this person: because since he has known you, you have been growing and changing, and he never knows where you will be next. What a surprise.
And if you want to continue to catch someone, the best way is actually "uncertainty of feedback".
When a person already knows clearly what kind of treatment he will get for what he does, do you think this person will still work hard to perform? Of course not - I want you to treat me well, and I will Be nice to you; I want to be alone, so I deliberately distance myself from you.
So the best way is to increase your "feedback uncertainty". In human terms, this is:
In love, you cannot always be the one who treats you well. You should be nice to him immediately; if this person asks you to do anything, you should agree immediately.
I’m in a good mood today. I’ll buy you a gift myself. I don’t need you to give a gift in return, because I’m happy and because you deserve it. You asked me for dinner, but I may have refused, and there’s no other reason. , just because I want to be alone...
Being in love really requires a certain amount of "feedback uncertainty" "of.
Only in this way, there will be times when the other party is not sure what you mean, but will be more active and care about your feelings.
Many times, letting love occupy your entire life is actually a very sad thing. If you want to continue to create freshness for the other person and make your relationship last longer, please remember:
You must keep growing first. Freshness is not something you constantly create for the other person, but It is what the other party constantly discovers during your growth process;
You must have your own opinions, learn to control the relationship, and increase the uncertainty of feedback, instead of always being available and always available. You can only be passive;
You want to have a different life and world, and find the points that can continue to attract each other from a richer life and a larger world, rather than being limited to you. In the relationship, the other person will eventually feel that you are boring and boring.
Many people say that falling in love is tiring, and chasing girls is also tiring. Actually this is notTired, but the losses in the game are too great.
Intimate relationships are divided into "love relationships" and "ambiguous relationships." In the game of intimate relationships, the best result is not winning, but balancing.
That is, on the premise of maintaining the continuation of the game, improving one's experience in intimate relationships.
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