Whether it is physically or mentally, men mature slower than girls. Therefore, a mature man is simply a walking hormone in the eyes of girls. Basically every girl has maturity in her mate selection criteria. .
So what makes a mature man in the eyes of girls?
1. Have a bottom line
People who have no lower limits will be looked down upon in any relationship. Therefore, if we want to become a mature man, the first step is to be a person with a bottom line and principles. In this way, the bottom line and principles will not only not destroy the relationship between you, but also make the other party trust you more.
Don’t think that your relationship with a girl is so good that she can touch your bottom line.
Have you ever thought that not only will your indulgence not be appreciated, but it will actually cause others to act recklessly and even trample on your personality? How mature can you be for a person who has no personality?
2. Be measured
Having said that When it comes to the bottom line, propriety is indispensable. Being measured is the easiest to understand and the hardest to do. Simply put, it means doing things that are consistent with the relationship between the two parties.
Based on the distance of the relationship between the two parties, speak and act appropriately, without overconfidence, forced sharing, or inquiring into privacy. Some friends may say that two people are already very familiar with each other. They know each other well enough to eat with a pair of chopsticks, so there is no need to worry so much.
However, no matter how good the relationship is, people always have a bottom line. You don't know where the other person's bottom line is, and you may not know which words you said were wrong, and the relationship between the two people will be shattered.
For example, you say you are pursuing someone else’s little girl. It’s not a relationship, not a relationship, it’s just a pursuit. If you come up and want to watch someone take a shower, they have to call the police, right? So don’t ask questions or share casually. It’s good for both you and her. Do what you have to do and make a good impression.
3. Be assertive
Be assertive. How to put it this way, you should have your own thoughts and persistence when encountering problems, and don't follow them blindly.
You do what others do, and then I ask you why you do it. You say, because I think everyone else does it. This is pointless and will make you look incompetent.
Know what you want and what you don’t want; what you support and what you don’t support; what you like and what you hate. In this way, when encountering something, you will be a living person with opinions.
Instead of "I can do it", "I don't know", "Whatever", "You can figure it out"...
4. Knowing how to advance and retreat
Compared with the first three, knowing how to advance and retreat is more difficult.
The difference is that the first three only need to grasp one degree, while knowing how to advance and retreat requires grasping two. You need to know when to advance and when to retreat, and use advancement and retreat to gain favor in interpersonal interactions.
Then... I won’t talk about this hahahahahaha.
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