Recently, I had a chat with a few close girlfriends about the topic of love, and we all had a lot of reflections. Honestly, love really requires some wisdom and skills, especially for women, who must hold onto their boundaries. Today, I want to share my insights with everyone, hoping to provide some inspiration to those who are in love or preparing to enter a relationship.
First, women must adhere to four non-negotiables in a relationship. The first is never to help your boyfriend borrow money or take out loans. It might sound a bit exaggerated, but in reality, many women have ended up losing both their relationships and their money due to a moment of soft-heartedness. As "Traveling Lady 66" mentioned in the comments, a little more rationality can avoid a lot of unnecessary harm. If a man truly loves you, he won't let you bear these risks. Remember, love is not measured by money.
The second is not to get pregnant before marriage. This is really important. Getting pregnant before marriage not only puts women in a passive position but also causes significant physical and emotional trauma. As "Unstained Ink" also mentioned in the comments, in the end, the man might not have to bear any responsibility, while the woman has to endure all the consequences. So, no matter how much you love him, protect yourself and don't gamble with your life.
The third is not to easily give up your career. Some men might say, "I'll take care of you," which sounds romantic, but reality is often harsh. As "Traveling Lady 66" also pointed out in the comments, a little more rationality can avoid a lot of unnecessary harm. Women must have their own financial independence to maintain equality and dignity in a relationship.
The fourth is never to be the other woman. This goes without saying. Being the other woman not only costs you your dignity but may also sacrifice your reputation. Your parents worked hard to raise you so you could live a happy life, not to get you into such a predicament.
After discussing the non-negotiables for women, let's talk about three simple tips for men. Actually, when pursuing a woman, men don't need to learn many complex theories; doing three things well is enough. First, be sincere. What women value most is a man's sincerity. Don't play games; treat her with genuine intentions. Second, be attentive. Women love to be cared for and looked after. Pay attention to her preferences and needs, and give her small surprises. Third, respect her choices and decisions. Don't try to control her; give her enough space and freedom.
In summary, love requires mutual effort and management from both parties. Women must hold onto their boundaries, and men must learn to be sincere, attentive, and respectful. Only then can the relationship become more stable and lasting. I hope my sharing can be helpful to everyone, and I welcome you to share your own love experiences and insights in the comments.
