We all know that girls need a sense of security, but few people know what sense of security girls want? And how should we give girls a sense of security? This is actually very important in the process of chasing girls, and it is the cornerstone of your understanding of girls. Let me share with you how to give girls the sense of security they want? Only then can she feel at ease!
1. What kind of sense of security do girls want?
From the lowest level of logic, the so-called sense of security means that when girls face various personal choices, they can How many chips are you holding? If a girl is pursued by many people and she only needs to choose one of them to fall in love with, she will naturally not feel insecure.
From a psychological point of view, security means [availability], which is the evaluation of availability in a girl’s inner world. For example, a girl wants a loyal partner, and that person will reply when he sees her message. As long as he wants the company she wants, he can appear next to the girl. Then the girl has a stronger sense of security in "love" . But if a girl doesn’t know the whereabouts of her partner at any time and doesn’t reply to messages, then the girl’s sense of security will naturally be lower.
2. How to give girls the sense of security they want
For girls who lack a sense of security, they always Living in doubts and demands, constantly verifying whether the other party loves you and whether they are loyal enough, living in a social state of worrying about gains and losses. If the girl you like happens to be this kind of insecure person, you will actually feel tired when getting along with her, but as long as you can guide her well, you can still get along comfortably. How to do it?
People with a sense of security can realize that "their partner is not perfect and does not meet expectations", but they will not be anxious and uneasy, but can let their partner know "their own self" through tolerance and guidance. What areas need improvement?" so that the relationship can enter a virtuous cycle.
To put it bluntly, the reason why some people are insecure is because they adhere to the belief that "you must... so that I can give more love." The sense of security in a healthy relationship lies in "I know that our relationship is still far from the ideal, so we have to do better together."
In other words, people who have a sense of security can use their existing feelings to Integrate resources and maximize each other’s benefits.
In a sense, based on your self-affirmation, you can receive feedback from external things to a greater extent. You will find that those who feel secure are very willing to encourage others, while those who are insecure will not even recognize themselves at the very least, and may even doubt and fear the encouragement of others.
Therefore, if you want to give a girl a sense of security, you still have to guide her to give herself a sense of security, because in fact, a sense of security does not depend on others.What is given by conditions comes more from one's own satisfaction.
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