Compared with girls who are more delicate and thoughtful, boys are much more neurotic, so they often say wrong things to make girls angry, which will have a negative impact on boys who want to continue to have contact with girls in the future. So what can you do if a boy says the wrong thing while chatting with a girl? Is there any more drama? Let me explain it to you with a case below.
The following is the content of a boy chatting with a girl he has known for two days:
Chat from above From the records, it can be seen that the boy really has the urge to get along with girls, but he is not very experienced in relationships. It makes girls unhappy, which is why they are rejected later. Let’s discuss the problems analyzed based on the chat records and sort them by severity:
1. The purpose of the chat is too obvious< /h2>
When chasing girls, you must not have too strong a purpose. The later the purpose is revealed, the better. Even in the end, the purpose is not revealed, but the girls are allowed to chase the boys. This is a master.
Reason: Women have been on the defensive side since ancient times, and men have been on the offensive side. Therefore, women naturally have a defensive posture when facing men. If girls have not established trust and goodwill towards boys, as long as the boys show some pursuit, their first reaction will definitely be to run away.
Even if a boy is so handsome that a girl can’t wait to lick the screen, but if she has never met the boy before and the boy tells her that he wants to pursue her when they meet for the first time, she will subconsciously say go away, boy. Who is it, boy! Even if she regretted it later and thought the boy was so handsome that she was attracted by it, it was already too late. Because she has already rejected the boy, and if she wants to overturn it again, it will be no less difficult than when they first met.
2. The pursuit attitude is too low
The pursuit attitude is too low. This article refers to boys who have no personality and topic dominance in chatting. The girl said she was studying, but the boy kept struggling with this topic, and his response was not very clever. Since the boy has basically made it clear that he wants to pursue her, the boy should respond by flirting with her instead of simply responding dryly. The very least boys can say is, I have some learning methods here. If boys can treat me to dinner, I will tell them.
Of course, you need to have an aura when talking to others. The boy has already established this communication method with this girl. The basic chat aura must be finalized, but the next goal of the boy is Slowly change your attitude and way of speaking.
3. Chatting too muchSubjective
When talking to a girl, you must think from the other person’s perspective and express yourself using the other person’s thinking.
What kind of chatting methods do girls like? Girls like chatting methods that can arouse their emotions and speak more emotionally. Men like the straightforward Newton's laws, while girls like poems about flowers before the moon and under the moon.
And women generally pay more attention to themselves. When a boy is chatting, he should try to attract her with words that arouse emotions, so that the probability of her returning to the boy will be much greater. And the more we talk, the more topics we talk about. It’s okay if you don’t understand. The key is to inject and mobilize emotions.
4. Chatting too proactively
Why are boys said to be too proactive? Take a closer look. How many messages did the girl send in the screenshot of the entire chat? The girl is obviously not very interested in the boy's topics and chatting methods, but he keeps talking about his roommates from college to graduate school or even PhD. She is not interested in you yet, but she will be interested in your roommate. ? What could the girl say? She didn't want to know and wasn't interested, so she could only roll her eyes and say it was okay.
But it would be different if a boy could attract her. For example, my six roommates in the dormitory in college were all rough guys and good at playing games. We sometimes played black and white. How different was it from your dormitory? We must have been very happy getting along with each other in your dormitory, right? In this way, the girl has room to respond. She can say she is happy or unhappy, and she has emotions.
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