What do you think you are most afraid of when going on a blind date? In my opinion, it is - the sudden silence in the air. Yes, that's right, both people are very embarrassed like this. Of course, in addition to this, it is also not advisable to have awkward conversations when you have nothing to say. So today I will give you some popular science on how to chat on a blind date. Hurry up. Take a look.
First of all, let’s understand what is awkward chat?
Awkward chat = embarrassment + boredom. It means that even though both parties are aware of it, they are still having an uninteresting and meaningless conversation. At this time, both sides were holding on, and the atmosphere had entered an awkward state.
1. So in the process of blind date, how to avoid having nothing to say or having awkward conversations?
Principle: Topics are not discovered by finding them, but by trying them out.
Tips:
① Simply observe the changes (appearance, mental state, emotion);
② Every subtle change serves as an entry point to see if the other party is willing. Willing to continue chatting;
③ Daily routines to find topics: Everyone’s daily life is composed of three major parts: work, life, and family. Ask and care about the other person's work intensity, greet the other person's family, and understand the other person's hobbies in their spare time.
Examples of speaking skills:
①I noticed that your eyelashes are very long. Are you of foreign origin?
②This mobile phone you are using I have considered buying it before. How do you like it? Do you recommend it?
③I like this store very much. The environment is very good and the service is considerate. How did you discover it?
④Your fingers are so long, can you play a musical instrument?
⑤Your voice is nice, you should sing very well?
Judgment criteria: If the other party can throw a finger at you Respond to the topics that come up in a positive manner. This is the other person's point of interest. Based on this, you can choose topics that both of you are interested in and extend them up and down, and you will be able to chat happily.
2. Resolve the embarrassment that there is no topic or the topic has gone astray.
Principle: The key to avoiding embarrassment is to know where to stop. You need to find the other person's areas of interest, put the brakes on topics the other person doesn't want to talk about, and be calm even in the face of silence.
Tips:
① Don’t forcefully extend topics that the other party or you are not interested in.
② Moderate short selling can sometimes give you more control. Appropriate silence can arouse a sense of tension in a person, especially the opposite sex who has a good impression of you.
③It can divert attention. You can ask him about the areas he is more interested in and ask him about his subjective opinions.
④ Make some physical preparations to divert the attention of both parties, such as sharing food with the other party, preparing some snacks, such as lozenges and chocolates, and using their appearance to change the scene. This cleverly resolves the embarrassment.
This can divert you from the dead end of awkward chat.
The above two methods can make your blind date go smoothly. Don’t believe it, I have tried it myself, so what are you waiting for? Save it quickly.
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