Question: A girl and I are colleagues, and we usually chat pretty well, but recently when I asked her out as a joke, she said she was unavailable. The following is the chat record. Can you help me analyze it and see if it is still possible? Attached is a chat case:
Is it possible to date a girl if she says she has no time?
Answer:
I don’t know how you and girls usually get along. I don’t know your personal information. From your description, it seems interesting, but there is something wrong with the direction of your topic. Why? You only have three ideas when you take the initiative to ask Guangming Town:
1. You really want to go
2. Find a topic to chat with girls
3. Invite girls
Do you see the point of what she said about electric cars? Take the initiative to express your opinions every 2 minutes. There is also an electric car expression in it. People only do fancy things when they are relaxed. It means that they are not disgusted with you and it is a pleasure to chat with you.
Otherwise, I can just send you the location. Why do so many things?
Then, you say thank you, and then ask the other person if they didn’t go to play during the holidays? Is there something wrong? There's nothing wrong with it, you just can do better.
Why don’t you pick up the topic of the other party’s electric cars? You have to understand that being together requires feelings, and feelings need to be interacted with, not automatically when the time comes.
If I were you, I would say this: What a great idea, ride my beloved little tram, it’s convenient and worry-free. Didn’t you go out to play during the holidays?
Why is this better for me? Because your sharing has only one topic, and my sharing has two topics. If she's not in a good condition and can't answer your question, won't she be gone? You have to start it yourself again. But I am sharing two topics at the same time. If I don’t want to pick up the topic of “Didn’t I go out to play?”, I can also pick up the topic of electric vehicles. There is a clear difference in experience. When chatting with you, she considers whether to answer the call, while when chatting with me, she considers which topic to choose to answer, and she can also answer two at the same time. We can filter out the favorable topics and then chat in depth. How comfortable .
She said: Eat and drink with friends and family. What does this mean? It means I have feelings for you.
I am not telling lies. What I said above is that without hee hee, he is obviously much colder. But in your screenshot, there is "hee hee". Isn't this tone a bit gentle? A little naughty? But what are you talking about? Send an emoticon. . . One look and you can tell that you don’t know what to say. Why don’t you try to extend the other person’s topic, such as:
Our little tour guide in Shenzhen will lead the way, and your friends will definitely have fun. When I have time, I will also let the little tour guide lead the way, haha
Look, while responding to the other person’s topic, I also expressed myself point of view?
Later, when she saw your expression, she didn’t know how to pick you up, so she took the initiative to start a topic and wanted to know more about you. What does this mean? It means being curious about you and interested in you. She sent a funny expression, adding that she might not be available, and added that she would definitely do it next time. Is this a problem? no problem.
But what did you pick up? Putting aside the facts, do you think you will definitely go out if someone asks you out? uncertain. Why not necessarily?
You have already been there, what are you going to do next? And you don’t know how to arrange it when the time comes, and you don’t know what to do there.
Do you understand? Maybe I have no interest in this place, or maybe I don’t know if I’m free, and it’s not about you.
Have you noticed that your chat is messy? Why do you insist on being stuck in Guangming Town? Why don't you try to date somewhere else? It’s not that people are not interested in you, it’s that you talk too much and lead blindly. If I guessed correctly, you definitely didn’t expand on the content of playing with your classmates in Guangzhou and how happy they were, right?
The above is your screenshot analysis. If you feel like you, you can adjust your strategy. You can try to extend the other party's topic in depth, you can also try to change the invitation to another place, or you can try to show your life.
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