Recently, while chatting with my girlfriends, the topic of love came up, and everyone had endless sentiments to share. Honestly, love isn't something that can be managed with just passion alone. Today, I want to share some small truths I've learned from my experiences in love, especially the last one, which really made me see the light.
First, learning to control your emotions is really important. I used to think that in love, you should just follow your heart, say what you want, and do what you want. But later, I realized that this only makes you more and more passive. Calming down and thinking about problems from an objective perspective is the only way to truly control a relationship. As one netizen said, "When emotions are out of control, it's easiest to make decisions you'll regret." So, learning to control your emotions is not only a responsibility to yourself but also a respect for the relationship.
Second, loving yourself is really important. I used to think that loving someone meant giving unconditionally, even giving up your own principles. But later, I found that this only makes the other person value you less. There's a saying, "One must first love oneself, and then others will love them." Your attitude towards yourself determines how others treat you. So, don't give up yourself for the sake of loving someone; respect yourself, and others will respect you.
Next, let's talk about lowering your expectations. The perfect male lead in idol dramas really only exists on screen. Real-life love is more about simplicity and mutual understanding. If a man's care and attention towards you exceed normal levels, you should be wary of his ulterior motives. A netizen commented, "Girls with a 'love brain' are the most vulnerable because they always imagine the other person as too perfect." So, lowering your expectations allows you to better enjoy love.
Not clinging to the past is also an important truth. Many people are always immersed in their past relationships, reminiscing about the good times. But in reality, this is often just because you're not doing well now and need an emotional outlet. A netizen shared, "Let go of the past to welcome a better future." So, don't just move yourself; looking forward is the right path.
Enhancing your value is also an indispensable point in love. Don't be afraid of what others might covet from you, whether it's money or beauty; these are your assets. The continuation of any relationship requires mutual value provision, whether emotional or material. Your value determines your treatment. A netizen said, "Improve yourself to attract better people." So, don't stop growing; make yourself more valuable.
Finally, don't take love too seriously. The less you care about him, the more he will chase you. Focus on yourself; your career and abilities are your real bargaining chips. When you are excellent enough, you will naturally have a beautiful relationship. A netizen lamented, "Men are easily attracted but hard to keep." So, instead of revolving around him every day, seriously manage yourself and bloom beautifully.
These truths have really benefited me in love. I hope they can help you too. Love is a practice, and I hope we can all find the best version of ourselves in this practice.
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