Recently, I came across an interesting topic online about how to encounter love in a mall. Honestly, it reminded me of a little piece of advice shared by Scottie Barnes, a player for the Toronto Raptors, during a live stream. He said, "Dude, go out more. Look, that's your problem. You say you need a girlfriend, but you don't go out. It's simple, man. Want a girlfriend, right? Go find one at the mall, go hang out at the mall. Go out, and if you see someone you like, ask for their number, don't be shy. Be confident, it's simple."
This advice sounds quite straightforward, but upon reflection, it does make some sense. We often complain about not being able to find a partner, but in reality, many times we confine ourselves at home. Barnes' advice, though simple, essentially encourages us to go out more, meet more people, and create more opportunities for ourselves.
However, when it comes to love, especially how women behave in relationships, I think there are some points to be mindful of. I have a friend who was once the typical "love-struck" type, valuing her boyfriend above everything else. She cared about nothing but her boyfriend every day. As a result, her boyfriend eventually broke up with her, and she was completely devastated, feeling as if her world had collapsed.
In fact, one of the most common mistakes women make in relationships is over-giving. Love should be mutual, but some women place their partners on a pedestal while lowering themselves to the ground. For example, my friend not only did laundry and cooked for her boyfriend but even washed his feet, reasoning that "he's been working all day, his feet are tired." I asked her, "You've also been working all day, aren't you tired?" She replied, "I sit in an office, it's not that hard." Yet, after living together for four years, her boyfriend still broke up with her and married someone else within a few months.
This incident taught me a lesson: in a relationship, women must maintain their independence and not lower themselves too much. Love is mutual, not a one-sided effort. If you turn yourself into a "servant" for your partner, they might find you less attractive. As that guy said, "I need a wife, not a servant."
Additionally, women in relationships should learn to protect themselves. Pre-marital cohabitation is quite common now, but I personally advise against moving in together too early. After all, if you haven"t fully understood what kind of person your partner is, rushing to live together might put you in a passive position. Even if you do cohabit, be mindful of protecting your body and avoid getting pregnant too early. If you do get pregnant and your partner has no intention of marrying, it could cause significant physical and psychological harm to you.
In conclusion, love is beautiful, but women must remember: while loving others, also love yourself. Have your own career and life, and don"t place all your hopes on your partner. Love is a process of mutual giving and respect, not unconditional sacrifice from one side.
Finally, I want to say that whether you're a man or a woman, in the pursuit of love, always maintain confidence and independence. As Barnes said, go out more, create more opportunities for yourself, and don't be shy. But at the same time, remember that love is not the entirety of life; it's just a part of it. No matter what happens, learn to love and protect yourself, and be a dignified person.
That's all for today's sharing. If you have similar experiences or thoughts, feel free to chat with me in the comments. After all, the topic of love always resonates with many.
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