Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of pursuing girls, I suddenly remembered an interesting phenomenon I had observed before—how to respond when a girl says "Ah, this." Honestly, it's a very delicate moment. Handling it well might lead to successfully winning her heart; mishandling it could mean the end of the road. Today, I'd like to share my observations and thoughts on this.
First, when a girl says "Ah, this," it's usually a reaction of surprise or being at a loss. It might happen when you confess your feelings, ask her out, or give her a gift, and she suddenly blurts out "Ah, this." At this point, many guys might panic, not knowing how to respond. The key is to understand her emotions and respond with high emotional intelligence.
For example, when you confess your feelings and she says "Ah, this," it's likely that she's not ready to accept you yet. In this case, don't pressure her; instead, give her space. You could say, "Don't feel pressured. My feelings for you are my own, and you don't need to respond right away." This way, you express your feelings without making her feel overwhelmed. A friend of mine did this, and the girl later initiated conversations with him, bringing them closer.
Another example is when you"re trying to escalate the relationship, and she says "Ah, this," it might be because she feels things are moving too fast. Here, you can lighten the mood with a joke, like, "Why are you so nervous? I didn't say I'd marry you or anything." Or simply switch topics to talk about her work or hobbies. This avoids making her feel awkward and keeps the conversation going.
When giving a gift, if she says "Ah, this," it might be because she thinks the gift is too expensive or she's not ready to accept your feelings. You could say, "Don't feel pressured. I had no use for this, so I thought I'd give it to you." Or, "I thought this gift was perfect for you, just as a token of friendship." This expresses your feelings without making her feel burdened.
When asking her out, if she says "Ah, this," it might be because she's not ready to go out with you. You could say, "Let's talk about it when you're free." Or, "The weather's nice today, perfect for a walk." This gives her the option without making her feel forced.
In essence, the most important thing in pursuing a girl is understanding and respecting her feelings. When a girl says "Ah, this," it's often because she's not ready or feels things are moving too fast. What you need to do is give her space and ease her pressure with a light-hearted approach.
Finally, here's a comment from a netizen: "Pursuing a girl is like making soup—too much heat and it burns, too little and it's bland. The key is to get the timing right." I think this is spot on. Pursuing a girl isn't something that happens overnight; it requires patience and skill. I hope today's sharing is helpful, and I wish everyone finds their own happiness!
