When chatting with a girl, she starts perfunctory with you. In fact, it is because you started chatting wrongly and made her lose interest in you. If you are still pestering at this time, it will only make her more and more disgusted with you. How to talk to a girl? Will the chat not be perfunctory?
How to chat with girls without being ignored?
1. Secretly hiding Chencang
Most boys are perfunctory when chatting with girls, and they are not chatting. There was something wrong with the content, but the neediness was too obvious, and the girls labeled it as having ulterior motives.
In this way, no matter how you chat, you will be perfunctory by girls, because the source of this perfunctory comes from you, not the content of the chat.
Therefore, at this time, we have to use Chen Cang secretly to unlock the mark in her heart. Simply speaking, it is to break into her small group, because there is a social identity in people's psychology, that is, when they are in a When joining a certain group, they will confuse the group's strength with their own strength, thus gaining a higher sense of security and acceptance.
2. Food and grass first
How to raise food and grass is the key to resolving her perfunctory behavior, so what should be done specifically?
Rich daily life
In the sniper recovery service, we attach great importance to the improvement of our own value. This is because the improvement of our own value is the basis for the progress of the relationship, and similarly, during the chat process, the rich interest in life is also the source of chat topics. A man who can always bring freshness and mystery is also a man with fatal charm, and curiosity is undoubtedly an important way to extend the topic infinitely.
Her circle
Some brothers, before approaching the target, approach her circle. The magical effect is not only to lower their alertness, but also to understand and integrate into the target's life. Similar things always have a favorable impression, which is called the "homology effect" in psychology.
Therefore, for girls, gossiping about themselves or their friends can be very exciting for a day. Of course, the reason for this phenomenon lies in a significant feature of female thinking. This is also the core of the chat I am going to talk about next.
3. Know yourself and the enemy
In fact, if you don’t chat well, your replies will always be perfunctory. I mean, I don’t understand women’s thinking, or to put it more bluntly, I just can’t get what they want, I don’t understand girls’ thoughts, and they don’t chat in the same channel.
For example, when a girl says I have a stomachache, there are two common straight men’s answers. First, did you eat something bad when you were xx? (Analyze the reasons).
Second, go to the hospital for a checkup/It’s okay, just drink some hot water (solve the problem).
In addition, many times, the topic is not actually about girls.It's final, but boys don't know it. For example, a girl shares a photo of herself playing with you.
And your reply is, it’s great, have fun. (evaluation prediction).
So, how do you ask girls to continue? You can probably only say "ok", right?
Therefore, if you want to have a good conversation and understand the differences in thinking, it is actually important to The most important thing.
4. Taking the best approach
Many brothers have encountered such problems. My life construction It's very rich, the chat topics are developed very well, and the target is not objectionable to me, but it always turns hot and cold inexplicably, or becomes more and more cold, and I don't like to chat less and less.
If you encounter such a problem, you may have fallen into the "greedy trap".
Specifically, when you are chatting with a girl, you should talk to the end and don’t end the chat until you have nothing to say.
Although this kind of behavior is understandable, it’s hard to find a more open topic. As long as the girl doesn’t end the topic, she wants to continue the conversation.
But in fact, chatting like this will only make girls less and less interested in chatting with you. At Souyi, we choose to go first. During the chat, we must learn to take the initiative to leave, leaving people with the feeling that there is still more to say. There will be a long time ahead, so don’t say everything at once.
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