Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of getting out of singlehood, everyone agreed that it's really hard for young people to date nowadays. Actually, I think many times it's not that there are no opportunities, but that we are just not good at chatting. Take for example when a girl mentions she's out shopping; many guys would just reply with an "Oh" or "Have fun shopping," and that's the end of it. How can that make a girl feel good about you?
Speaking of this, I suddenly remembered a very interesting chat technique I came across before. It mentioned that when a girl says she's shopping, it's actually a great opportunity for interaction. For instance, you could say, "Did you see anything that would suit us both while shopping? Like something in a couple's style." This kind of ambiguous hinting reply doesn't seem too abrupt and can make her have some pleasant associations. A friend of mine tried this trick, and the girl actually started noticing couple items and later even asked him what color he liked!
Another technique I find particularly heartwarming is the caring and considerate reply: "Having fun shopping? But don't tire yourself out, okay? If you're tired, find a place to rest, I'd feel bad for you." This kind of talk sounds very comfortable, and girls will think you're very thoughtful. A guy I know does this every time his girlfriend goes shopping, and now she actively sends him photos to share, and their relationship is getting better and better.
But I think the most interesting is the humorous teasing reply. For example: "You're out shopping, and I'm here thinking of you, isn't that a bit unfair? How about you bring me a little gift when you come back to make up for it." This slightly coquettish tone doesn't seem too greasy and makes the girl think you're cute. A colleague of mine often uses this trick, and now his girlfriend always brings him little snacks when she comes back from shopping, it's just too sweet!
Speaking of which, I also remember a particularly interesting comment from a netizen. He said: "Before, I would only reply with 'Oh,' but now that I've learned these replies, my girlfriend says I've become good at chatting, and she even wants to take me shopping with her!" I really laughed out loud when I saw this comment, it seems that chat skills are really important!
Actually, chatting isn"t as hard as we think. The key is to learn to think from the other person's perspective and respond with some humor and consideration. Like the topic of shopping, it's a very ordinary daily topic, but if you can use some high EQ replies, you can make a plain conversation interesting.
Finally, I want to say, don"t be in too much of a hurry to get out of singlehood. Instead of always thinking about how to attract romance, it's better to improve your chat skills. After all, an interesting soul is the best romance luck, don't you think?
