Recently, I've come across numerous posts about "finding a girlfriend," and honestly, this topic never seems to go out of style! Whether it's brothers who have been single for years or friends who just broke up, it seems like everyone is worried about "getting out of singlehood." Today, I want to talk about this topic too, combining some insights shared by netizens and my own observations to offer some practical advice.
First of all, I want to say that finding a girlfriend isn't something you can achieve just by being "honest." As one netizen put it, "Honest and upright men who can make money still can't find a girlfriend." It sounds a bit harsh, but upon closer thought, there's some truth to it. Many guys feel that they have decent conditions, so why doesn't anyone like them? The issue might actually lie in being "too serious." What girls often like is someone who is interesting and warm, not just a "tool person" who follows the rules.
**Tip 1: Learn to "Paint a Big Picture," But Don't Go Overboard** This point is quite interesting. Girls do like guys who have aspirations for the future, but you need to make her feel that your "picture" is reliable. For example, you can talk about your future plans, like career goals or small life dreams, but don't exaggerate too much. As one netizen aptly said, "If you paint a big picture, she'll say you're bragging; if you compliment her beauty, she'll say you're a pervert." So, moderation is key—don't come off as a "daydreamer."
**Tip 2: Compliment Her, But Don"t Be Fake** Girls love to be complimented, that's undeniable. But there's an art to complimenting. For instance, you can praise her outfit, her smile, or even small details about her. But don't force it, especially if she's not particularly attractive and you insist on saying, "You're the most beautiful in the world," which can be awkward. One netizen shared a little trick: "Compliment her in front of others, no matter how unattractive she is." I think this advice is a bit extreme, but the core idea is right—girls like to be acknowledged, especially in public.
**Tip 3: Learn to Create "Intimacy"** This point is quite intriguing. One netizen mentioned that as soon as there's a bit of progress in the relationship, you should start calling her "wife." It sounds a bit exaggerated, but it's actually a form of psychological suggestion. This way, you can gradually get her used to the intimacy between you. Of course, this is only if she has some interest in you; otherwise, calling her "wife" might make her think you're being a creep.
**Tip 4: Enhance Your "Irreplaceability"** This point is particularly important. One netizen shared his experience of successfully pursuing a girl who was much better off than him by learning traditional Chinese massage. It sounds a bit unbelievable, but upon reflection, it makes sense. If you have a skill that others can't replicate, like massage, cooking, fixing computers, or even being exceptionally good at conversation, it can give you a unique place in a girl's heart. After all, girls like someone they can depend on and feel secure with.
**Tip 5: Don't Be Too Rational; Love Needs a Bit of Impulse** Lastly, I want to say that love really isn't a transaction. Many guys obsess over "houses, cars, and savings," thinking these are the hard requirements for finding a girlfriend. But in reality, girls value emotional dependence and resonance more. As one netizen said, "Love is just an illusion brought on by hormones," which, although it sounds a bit cold, does capture the essence of love. If you can make a girl emotionally dependent on you, she's likely to fall in love with you.
In summary, finding a girlfriend isn't something you can achieve just by having the "right conditions." You need to learn to create romance and intimacy, while also making yourself interesting and warm. Of course, the most important thing is not to rush—love requires a bit of fate. I hope these tips can help those of you who are struggling with singlehood!
Finally, here's a comment from a netizen: "Shared, hoping I can use this!" Haha, I wish everyone the best in finding their ideal girlfriend soon!
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