When it comes to first love, I guess many people recall their own youthful and somewhat awkward times, right? Especially for girls, when they first fall in love, they are always particularly concerned about their image, fearing to embarrass themselves in front of the person they like. However, the more cautious they are, the more likely they are to make a fool of themselves. I remember a netizen sharing her experience, saying that on her first date, she wore high heels to appear elegant, but accidentally tripped while walking, almost falling, and was so embarrassed that she wanted to crawl into a hole. Such embarrassing incidents, I guess many people have experienced, right?
In fact, these "little accidents" during first love are quite adorable. Although it felt like the sky was falling at the time, looking back, they have become the most precious memories. However, besides image management, girls in their first love often face a more complex social dilemma—how to handle suitors. Especially when someone is pursuing you, and you are not sure if you like them, how should you respond? This is really a skill.
A friend of mine once encountered this situation. She was being pursued by a guy, but she didn't have much feeling for him. The guy asked her, "I heard someone is pursuing you?" She didn't know how to answer at the moment, so she casually said, "Yes," which made the guy mistakenly think she was hinting that he had no chance, and he gave up directly. Later, she told me that she actually just wanted to test the guy's attitude, but it backfired. This reminds me of a netizen's comment: "When a girl says 'someone is pursuing her,' it's often not to show off, but to test the other person's reaction."
Therefore, a high emotional intelligence response is really important. If you have a good impression of the other person, you can slightly reveal your attitude, such as "Yes, someone is pursuing me, but I haven't made up my mind yet," which neither makes the other person feel rejected nor leaves some room for yourself. If you don't have feelings for the other person, then be more direct, such as "Yes, but I want to focus on my own things now," which is polite and won't cause misunderstandings.
In the end, the social dilemma during first love is actually a part of our growth. Whether it's the small mistakes in image management or the struggle in handling suitors, they are all processes of learning to get along with others and understand ourselves. As another netizen said, "The clumsiness during first love is the most authentic version of ourselves." So, don't worry too much about those little embarrassments, enjoy this youthful time, after all, it only happens once.
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