Recently, while chatting with a few friends, the topic of girls shopping and pre-sleep conversations came up. It seems many guys tend to "freeze" in these two scenarios. As someone who's been through it, I feel it's necessary to share some practical coping techniques.
Let's start with the topic of shopping. I remember when I was pursuing my girlfriend, every time she mentioned she was shopping, I would naively ask, "What did you buy?" It was only later that I realized how fun shopping conversations could be! For instance, once when she said she was shopping, I cleverly responded, "Did you see anything that would suit us both? Like something in a couple's edition." To my surprise, she actually started browsing the couple's section seriously and even sent me a few photos. This type of subtly suggestive reply doesn't seem too deliberate and can help bring you closer.
Another time, I used a romantic response: "I wish I could turn into the shopping bag in your hand, so I could always be with you." She laughed and said the reply was adorable. In fact, such imaginative expressions often leave a deep impression.
When it comes to pre-sleep chats, it's a real skill. Many guys panic when they hear "I'm going to sleep," either saying goodnight directly or forcing the conversation until the other person falls asleep. Actually, the most important thing about pre-sleep chats is to let the other person fall asleep in a good mood. For example, you can gently say, "Sweet dreams, hope to meet you in my dreams too." Or be a bit playful: "Remember to dream about me, or I'll hold you accountable tomorrow!"
A friend of mine is particularly good at pre-sleep banter. Every time his girlfriend says she"s sleepy, he says, "Let's play a game, see who falls asleep first, the loser buys dinner tomorrow." His girlfriend always ends up laughing and feeling more awake. This kind of light-hearted and humorous interaction doesn't make the other person feel disturbed and can enhance the relationship.
A comment from a netizen reads: "These replies are so practical! I used to only say 'goodnight,' now I finally know how to make conversations more interesting." Indeed, conversational skills need to be learned and practiced. However, it's important to note that these replies should be tailored to the individual and not rigidly applied. The most important thing is to be sincere, letting the other person feel your thoughtfulness.
Finally, here's a little tip: Pay attention to the other person's interests and hobbies, and incorporate these elements into your conversations. For example, if they like milk tea, you could say, "If I could turn into the milk tea in your hand, I could accompany you shopping." This is both humorous and thoughtful, and it lets the other person feel your attentiveness.
Remember, good conversation isn't about tricks, it's about being thoughtful. I hope these little tips can help you make your chats more interesting and warmer!
