Recently, while chatting with a few single friends, I discovered a common confusion: why is it always so hard to pursue a girl? Even though my conditions are not bad, why can't I charm her? Honestly, I used to encounter this situation frequently until I gradually figured out some tricks, realizing that chasing girls really requires some skills.
Take the scenario where a girl says "Ah, this..." for example. I believe many guys have encountered this. For instance, you muster up the courage to confess your feelings, but the other party looks troubled and says, "Ah, this...". What should you do then? I used to make the mistake of insisting on asking, "So what do you really think?", and the result was predictable. Later, I understood that the most important thing at such times is to relieve the other person's pressure. As some netizens say: "When a girl says 'Ah, this...', she is actually expressing 'I'm not ready yet'." So now I would reply, "Don't feel pressured, I just want you to know how I feel," which actually makes it easier for the girl to relax.
Another example is the matter of giving gifts. I used to think that only expensive gifts could impress a girl. But once I gave a quite expensive necklace, and the girl looked troubled and said, "Ah, this... it's too expensive." I panicked at that moment, but fortunately, I reacted in time and said, "Don't feel pressured, I just think this necklace really suits you." Later, she not only accepted it but also wore it often, which taught me a lesson: the value of a gift is not in its price but in the thoughtfulness behind it.
When it comes to invitations, I have a friend who is particularly good at it. He never directly asks, "Are you free this weekend?" Instead, he would say, "The weather is so nice today, how about we go sit at that new coffee shop?" This casual way of inviting actually makes it easier for the girl to accept. As some netizens commented: "Girls really care about the state of the date, too formal an invitation can make her feel pressured."
In fact, the most important thing in pursuing a girl is to understand empathy. When a girl says "Ah, this...", it's often because she feels pressured. What we need to do is not to continue applying pressure, but to give her a relaxed and comfortable atmosphere. As the saying goes: "Love is not chased, but attracted." When we learn to interact with girls in a high emotional intelligence way, we naturally win her favor.
Finally, here's a little tip: instead of racking your brains to think of how to reply, pay more attention to the girl's emotional changes. Sometimes, a considerate smile is more effective than a thousand words. After all, true high emotional intelligence is not about tricks, but about genuine understanding and respect.
