Recently, I had a conversation with a few friends about our children's romantic relationships, and it really struck a chord with me. Particularly, the story of Xiaoyu, Ziyi's 27-year-old daughter, left a deep impression. Xiaoyu is beautiful and has a good job, but after a year and a half of dating, she broke up because the man's parents didn't approve. This made me ponder how we, as parents, can help our children establish healthy emotional relationships.
Ziyi told me that Xiaoyu's boyfriend was a "mama's boy," and his mother never expressed her opinion until the very end when she bluntly told Xiaoyu they weren't suitable. This situation is actually not uncommon. Another friend's daughter dated for eight years, visited her boyfriend's home dozens of times, but never met his mother. These experiences led me to summarize some abnormal signals, hoping to provide some reference for everyone.
Firstly, if the boyfriend"s family never shows a clear attitude, it's definitely a warning sign. Normally, parents wouldn't let their son date for a long time without expressing their stance. Secondly, if the parents of both sides never meet, it's also a problem. After a period of dating, the man's parents usually take the initiative to meet the woman's parents to express their attitude.
Moreover, if the boy always makes phone calls behind the girl"s back, it's also suspicious. If the relationship is solid, there should be no privacy between the two. Not inviting the girl to the boyfriend's home during holidays is also an issue. When a son has a girlfriend, parents usually invite her to stay over during holidays.
If the girl visits the boyfriend"s home and there's no gesture of acknowledgment, it's a warning sign. When a son brings his girlfriend home, parents usually give some money, like 6666 or 8888 yuan, to show approval. If there's no such gesture, be cautious. Additionally, if the boy is indifferent when the girl faces difficulties or is reluctant to spend money on her, these are also suspicious signs.
Lastly, if the boy is overly polite at the girl's home and doesn't act like part of the family, pretending to be something he's not, it shows insincerity and lack of genuine feelings. These are all signals that need to be watched out for.
In the comments section, Baiyang Qiyuan said, "Raising children is very worrying, and marriage needs to be approached with caution." This really resonated with me. As parents, we not only need to care about our children's education and careers but also pay attention to their emotional lives. Helping them build healthy emotional relationships is our unshirkable responsibility.
I hope these shares can be helpful to everyone, and I also hope that every child can find the right partner and live a happy life.
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