Previous article: The 5 major misunderstandings men have about chatting, which are very fatal! The response has been pretty good. I believe that if there are students who read it seriously, they must have taken notes or collected the article.
This article is also a collection of useful information about chatting. I even made a backup copy of the original text.
Today’s issue talks about the three realms of chatting. To put it concretely, how many steps does it take to go from a straight man to a popular scumbag? What are the characteristics of each?
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1. Straight men who chat with their brains
Note that many people here also have misunderstandings about chatting. They think Use your brain when chatting.
My point of view is completely opposite. Those who chat with the opposite sex or with ambiguous partners and use their brains to chat are all straight men, straight men who are tough and tough.
A rough description of their chat status is:
How do I talk to make the other person like me?
What jokes do I use to tease the other person? Do you think I’m humorous?
What should I show in the chat to attract the other person?
The above questions are unconsciously generated in the other person’s mind when they take the initiative to chat with them. A few questions. If you also have them, please face the wall consciously and recite this article.
The true story of a student is this:
He asked the girl he liked to watch a movie, and it was very interesting. It's a very silly and romantic movie. The girl was so moved that she thought it was a good movie.
This guy felt that it was time to show off his ability as a senior film critic, so he refuted the girls’ view that this was a good movie from multiple angles such as Fong Huadao, casting, and camera.
He felt that his professional strength had been fully demonstrated, and the girl should admire him. In the end, he did win, but the girl never watched a movie with him again.
Another way is that if a girl takes the initiative to send a message, they will start thinking again:
How should I reply?
What should we talk about?
How can I be clever and impress the other party?
As long as you are in the above situation when chatting with the opposite sex, I don’t care about your own conditions. How excellent you are, you will be disappointed. Even Si Cong can't stop it, I said so!
Do you know where Liang is? I'll tell you the answer.
Put yourself in your shoes, a girl who likes you said the following words to you:
The night view of the Hilton Hotel is really nice
Look IIs this level of vest line considered?
You asked me how old I am? 36D!!
Do you see it? Can you tell immediately that the other person wants to show off himself? A clumsy approach to merit, a desperate desire to win your favor, a method that is neither clever nor seems sincere.
If every word you say is carefully considered and considered repeatedly, then every word you say will reveal the timidity and fear in your heart.
Because you covet the beauty of the other person, you worry that if your chat is not exciting enough and if you do not show your advantages in time, you will miss this high-quality opposite sex.
Some people like to describe this matter as exposing a sense of need, and some people say it is a rational chat, which is not important.
The important thing is that we all know: the harder a person tries to show something, the more he lacks something.
Therefore, this kind of chatting that racks one's brains and tries his best to show off oneself must be cool.
2, a master of chatting with heart
If you can’t flirt with your head, what should you use? The correct answer It’s about intention, let me explain it to you.
Chatting with heart can also be called chatting with heart. The key word is sincerity, and the main expression of sincerity is the courage to express your inner thoughts and express your true needs, feelings, desires and fear.
Everyone can understand the expression of needs and feelings as soon as they hear it. That is to express the true psychological thoughts.
Here I want to explain desire and fear. These two points are a bit unpopular. They go hand in hand. The fear of death is because you are greedy for life, and the fear of girls thinking you are naughty is because you are lustful. Do you understand? ?
Because we adhere to the concept of sincere communication with the opposite sex, we should also sincerely express those desires and needs that are not accepted by the world.
But when expressing desires and needs, you must also express your fears and greed. How to understand?
In fact, it is to express your desires after expressing your concerns. .
For example, if you are dating a girl you like and the girl is wearing very sexy clothes, if you directly say that the girl has exaggerated breasts, she will definitely be scolded by the girl.
However, if you express your concerns first, just say: I know that I may be disgusted by you if I say this, and it may even make you think that I am a very lecherous man.
Then talk about your own desires: However, you are dressed so sexy today, it is really difficult for people to look at you. Now I don’t just like you, but also a little more. Not a simple thought!
Right, what would a girl think if she said this?
Of course she knows that she is sexy, and of course she knows that men are lustful, but can you sincerely explain yourself?She expresses her own desires and expresses her admiration for her figure in a non-greasy way. This is what "a woman looks like to please herself"!
3. Advanced chat skills using eye contact
This is very difficult and there is no need for ordinary people to pursue it excessively. But if you don’t understand it at all, big problems will arise.
Let me talk about the problem of a former student. His chatting, image, and all aspects were fine. However, he has been single for a long time, and one characteristic is that as long as he dates a girl, there will be no follow-up.
Later, after reviewing various plans, I asked an actress to convey her emotions through her eyes.
When the girl in the front smiled softly, he said he felt like it. When the girl in the back expressed anger with her eyes, he said he still felt like it. I asked her if you like to play around with girls after you have a good relationship with them. He asked me: How do you know?
The answer finally came out: he joked with girls, and when he was happy, But if a girl loses her patience, before he notices it, the girl will get angry, even furious, and her favorable impression of him will turn into disgust.
In addition, the skills of eye chatting are the same as the above two. They are not easy to use, but require continuous practice. , and once you practice it, it will have the ability to be equivalent to a plug-in.
You express your love with your eyes, and the other party receives it, but this cannot be regarded as revealing your thoughts, because it is only the eyes, and she cannot refuse because you did not say anything. But if the other party has a crush on you, She can respond to you with a look.
Do you understand? This is a technique that will never fail.
Interested students can practice at home.
For example, cover your face in the mirror, try to express anger, then try to express liking, and then try to express sadness. After you become proficient, you can add a trick to yourself: anger + liking. , Sad + Like, Touched + Like, etc. There is no upper limit to this.
That’s it for today’s article. If you like it, remember to like it and leave a message. In the next article, I will write about how to push and pull and express your love for girls.
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