Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of dating, I noticed that many guys around me are complaining: "Girls nowadays are so hard to chase, especially those slow-to-warm-up types. I don't even know where to start." Honestly, as someone who's been through it, I can totally relate to this sentiment. Slow-to-warm-up girls do give off a "cold" vibe, but in reality, they're not actually hard to chase—they just require more patience and skill. Today, I want to talk about how average guys can easily win over a high-quality girlfriend.
First, we need to understand what "slow-to-warm-up" really means. Many guys hear a girl say she's slow-to-warm-up and immediately think she's rejecting them, but that's not the case. Slow-to-warm-up girls are usually more cautious; they need time to get to know someone and build trust. As one of my friends put it: "Being slow-to-warm-up doesn't mean I don't like you; it means I'm afraid of getting hurt." So, if you encounter a slow-to-warm-up girl, don't give up too quickly. Be patient and give her enough time and space.
Next, let's talk about specific strategies. Finding a partner can really be elevated to a "strategic level." A good partner not only shares the pressures of life with you but also brings emotional value and can even influence your next generation. So, we're not just looking for anyone—we're looking for quality. Here, I've summarized a few practical tips for getting into a relationship, which you can refer to.
If you work in a government or state-owned enterprise, congratulations—you actually have quite a few opportunities to find a partner. Usually, get along well with the uncles, aunts, brothers, and sisters in your unit. Be sweet with your words. When they ask if you have a girlfriend, say no, and casually mention that your social circle is quite small and your family is pressuring you. This way, there"s a good chance someone will introduce you to a potential partner, and the people they introduce are usually of good quality.
If you work in a private company and are quite busy, you can shift your focus online. I"m not talking about using those sketchy dating apps, but rather leveraging existing social platforms. For example, when you're scrolling through videos, turn on the local feature and look for girls who share their lives. If you find someone interesting, add them as a friend. Your opening line can be simple: "Hey, are you from Chengdu too?" This kind of topic is non-threatening, and girls usually respond. How you proceed from there depends on your skills.
Finally, if you're currently unemployed or not too busy at work, participate in more offline activities. For example, clubs for swimming, archery, or boxing—if you're financially well-off, you can directly join a club and slowly look around. If your budget is limited, go for day trips around the city or free trial classes at training centers. At the very least, go to small bars and look for girls drinking with their girlfriends. You'll definitely be able to add a few friends. After adding them, chat slowly. If things go well, you can move on to flirting, dating, and establishing a relationship. If not, just move on to new people.
In reality, getting into a relationship isn"t that hard—the key is to put in the effort. As someone in the comments section said: "Getting into a relationship is also a skill!" Indeed, finding a partner requires methods, but more importantly, patience and sincerity. Slow-to-warm-up girls may take time, but once they open up to you, they are definitely high-quality girlfriends. So, guys, don't rush. Take it slow, and you'll eventually meet the right person.
Lastly, if you have any relationship questions, feel free to reach out to me anytime. Let's chat about it. After all, when it comes to finding a partner, brainstorming together increases the chances of success!
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