Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of love, I noticed that many of them seem quite "awkward" in their relationships. Honestly, I used to be the same—liking someone but too afraid to express it, fearing rejection and loss of face, which led me to miss many opportunities. Over time, I realized that there's really no need to be so tangled up in matters of the heart.
I recall a reader telling me how she used to constantly worry about her boyfriend leaving her, living in a state of perpetual anxiety, only to feel relieved after they actually broke up. This reminded me of a saying: Instead of worrying about losing, it's better to enjoy the present. After all, the more you care about something, the easier it is to lose it.
When it comes to pursuing a girl, I believe sincerity is key. Avoid playing games or trying too hard to please. As "Mr. Lin, who doesn't eat spicy food" mentioned in the comments, being genuine is the best approach. I have a friend who won over his current girlfriend with his sincerity. He simply told the girl he liked, "I think you're special and I want to get to know you better." No fancy tricks, just straightforward honesty, which made the girl feel he was reliable.
Another important point is to be confident. I used to be very insecure, always feeling unworthy of the person I liked. Over time, I realized this mindset is unnecessary. Everyone has their own shining points. Instead of obsessing over your flaws, showcase your strengths. As the article mentions, a low sense of self-worth can make you increasingly insecure, causing you to miss many opportunities.
Speaking of opportunities, I think it's perfectly fine to take the initiative. In this day and age, it's normal for girls to pursue boys too. I have a close friend who, upon meeting a guy she liked, directly asked him out for coffee. Now, they've been together for two years. She says, "If you like someone, go for it. There's nothing to be shy about. At worst, you get rejected, but that's better than missing out."
Finally, I want to say that there"s really no need to overthink love. Some people constantly worry, "Does he really like me?" or "Can we last?" and end up ruining a good relationship. In reality, it's best to let things flow naturally. Enjoy the sweetness of the present and cherish the person in front of you—that's what truly matters.
In summary, the simpler you keep love, the better. Don"t be awkward, don't overthink. If you like someone, go after them; if you're together, cherish each other. Remember, you are worthy of love and deserve a beautiful relationship.
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