Recently, I had a conversation with a few friends about the topic of dating. One friend mentioned that the pace of dating nowadays is too fast, with people holding hands and kissing within days of meeting, as if they're rushing through the stages. Another friend said she prefers to take things slow, believing that being a bit conservative isn't a bad thing. This reminded me of a story I came across earlier, which I found quite interesting, and I'd like to share it with you today.
In the story, the girl and the boy were high school classmates. Although they ended up at the same university, they hadn't interacted much before. One day, they started chatting online, and the conversation flowed like a lively sparrow, becoming more and more engaging. Soon after, they planned to hang out on the weekend. The boy was very considerate, arranging the itinerary meticulously, and the girl felt everything was going smoothly. However, in the mall, the boy suddenly took her hand, and she instinctively pulled away.
Later, she asked herself, "Am I too conservative?" In reality, she wasn't a traditional person and was open to new experiences. But when faced with intimate gestures before establishing a relationship, she hesitated. She believed that mature love should be steady before becoming passionate. If she allowed holding hands this time, what about next time? Would there be further advances? She didn't want to lose control over the situation due to a moment's impulse.
This reminded me of a Korean drama called "Our Blues," where the female lead, Bang Young-ju, and her boyfriend, Jung Hyun, were an enviable couple, both excelling academically and sharing the same dreams. However, after becoming intimate, their lives took a drastic turn. Bang Young-ju unexpectedly became pregnant, complicating their relationship. Eventually, they had to face pressure from their families and society, and their lives became a mess. The plot left many viewers sighing, with one commenting, "A love without boundaries has no future."
Indeed, even in the closest relationships, it's important to stay within the bounds of responsibility and capability. Being conservative isn't wrong; it's a boundary, a form of self-protection. As someone in the comments said, "Protecting oneself is never wrong." Others might think holding hands is no big deal, and it's normal if you like each other. But I believe everyone has their own pace and values in love; the key is to find someone who resonates with you.
In the story, the girl gradually lost touch with the boy, returning to single life, while the boy later posted about his new partner on a winter day. Although they never explicitly discussed it, they both understood that their scales of love were too different. She preferred to take things slow, hoping for a steady flow, while he wanted to test feelings through physical intimacy. In simple terms, they weren't compatible.
To this day, the girl is still grateful for her persistence. She feels that her conservative boundary helped her resist the temptation of fast-paced dating and reduced the cost of trial and error. As she said, "Be steady first, then love." Learning to plant a ruler named "conservative" in our hearts might help us remind ourselves to take it slow amidst the turbulent waves of love.
In fact, there"s no right or wrong in love, and fast or slow isn't the issue. What's important is finding someone who respects and understands you. As someone in the comments said, "In this fast-paced era, I just want to take it slow." We will always meet someone who resonates with us, won't we?
Finally, I"d like to ask you all, do you think being a bit conservative in love is a good thing? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments!
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