When chatting with girls, boys who are good at chatting will not make awkward conversations no matter how they chat. They can even get along with girls quickly, so that the relationship escalates unconsciously, while boys who can’t chat can only say a few words. Just chatting to death, how do those boys who know how to chat chat with girls?
1. Use the golden thinking formula
Most people can’t chat together because they can’t chat on the same channel.
Just like a girl complaining to you about work: "The design draft has been revised 6 times, our boss has a lot to do!"
At this time, if you say: "Don't always complain, who will let you know?" They are the bosses and we are the workers. "Then it's basically cool.
Girls don't want to listen to your cynicism. You should first express that you understand the other person's mood, "If I were also feeling tired, maybe not as good as you," and Show appreciation for her ability to work.
Don’t talk too much when she doesn’t need your advice.
This golden thinking formula for chatting doesn’t only apply to men and women. Chatting between students can also be used in work and life to make each other feel comfortable and instantly become the most popular person in life.
< h2>2. Refuse Lu Yu’s awkward chatLu Yu’s classic awkward chat quote, “Really? I don’t believe it.” This sentence can instantly chill the chat atmosphere to zero in any situation. below degree.
When someone shares something with you, you should first try to figure out the other person’s psychology, whether they need your comfort or your praise.
If you accidentally blurt out, "Really? I don't believe it," be sure to quickly add, "You are really great." This will satisfy the other person's vanity and ensure that the more they chat with you, the more addictive you will become!
3. Avoid poking at others' sore spots
Don't talk about fatness in front of fat people, and don't mention ugliness in front of Dong Shi.
A girl who weighs only 90 pounds feels a bit like green tea when she says in front of a girl who weighs 180 pounds that she has gained weight again.
In life, if you want to avoid being looked down upon by others, you must avoid poking at other people’s sore spots, especially in a complaining tone.
The fourth point is to use less negation and praise appropriately
If your boss says to you "You are very capable, but your work is not serious enough", and "You are very capable at work. It would be perfect if I were more serious." Which one do you think sounds more comfortable?
You must like to hear the latter sentence.
So, if you want someone to have a certain advantage, just praise him or her and it will work with you every time!
The last thing I want to say isYes, the purpose of communication is not to compete, nor is it to make others agree with our own views.
Just like Cai Kangyong said: "I don't care about the skill of speaking, but the way of speaking. The way of speaking is to keep you in mind."
Before speaking Think about taking care of each other's feelings and whether you can make each other comfortable. This is a kind of maturity and kindness.
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