Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of dating, everyone complained about how difficult it is to understand women nowadays. It feels like the other person is interested, but as soon as you confess your feelings, you get the "nice guy" card; sometimes it seems like they're rejecting you, but actually, they're just testing you. As someone who's been through it, I believe that understanding women's subtext is a must-learn skill.
I remember when I first started pursuing my girlfriend, I made all sorts of mistakes. Once, she told me, "Work has been so busy lately," and I naively replied, "Then make sure to rest more," after which she ignored me for several days. It was only later that I realized she was hinting that I should ask her out to relax. This kind of "reading between the lines" communication is both endearing and frustrating.
In fact, when a woman says "no," it often doesn't mean a real rejection. For example, when she says, "We're not really compatible," she might be testing your resolve; when she says, "You're really nice," the subtext might be, "You're too straightforward." As the netizen "Cold Moon Frost" said, "When a woman says 'no,' she actually means 'yes,' but she wants you to be more proactive."
I've summarized a few common scenarios of subtext that I hope will be helpful. When a woman says, "I've been so bored lately," she's actually hinting that you should ask her out; when she says, "I'm on a diet," she might be waiting for you to compliment her figure; when she says, "You're really nice," the subtext might be, "You're too dull."
Of course, understanding the subtext is just the first step; more importantly, it's how you respond. For example, when a woman says, "I've been so bored lately," you can take the opportunity to ask her out to a movie or for coffee; when she says, "I'm on a diet," you can say, "You look great, why diet?"; when she says, "You're really nice," you can playfully reply, "Then would you consider such a nice person?"
However, it's important to remember that sincerity is the most crucial aspect of dating. Over-analyzing every word a woman says can be exhausting. As the netizen "Sister Yu Talks Emotions" said, "Instead of exhausting yourself trying to guess, it's better to express your feelings directly." Sometimes, being straightforward is more likely to move the other person.
Finally, I want to say that dating is a subject that requires careful cultivation. While understanding women's subtext is important, what's more crucial is maintaining sincerity and patience. After all, true feelings are built on a foundation of mutual understanding and trust. I hope everyone on the path to love finds their own happiness.
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