Recently, while chatting with a few single friends, I noticed a common confusion: why do women always seem to speak in riddles? When she says "it's nothing," she actually gets upset; when she says "whatever," she actually becomes more serious. This reminds me of a joke I saw before: when a woman says "five minutes," it actually means half an hour; when she says "I'm fine," it actually means "I'm not fine at all." Haha, it's just too real!
In fact, what women say often isn't literal but carries subtext. For example, when she says "I'll never talk to you again," it might not mean she really dislikes you, but rather that she cares so much that she expresses her emotions this way. As "Rural McDull" in the comments section said, getting into a relationship is really a skill! Not only do you need to understand the subtext, but you also need to use the right methods.
Speaking of methods, I've noticed that many guys are quite passive when it comes to finding a partner, always thinking, "I'm too busy with work to have time for a relationship." But upon closer reflection, relationships, like careers, require effort and dedication. As mentioned in the article, a good partner can not only share family pressures but also provide emotional support and even influence the next generation. So, finding a partner really shouldn't be taken lightly; it should be elevated to a "strategic level."
So, what should you do specifically? I've summarized a few practical tips to share with everyone:
**1. For brothers in the system, being sweet-talking is always right** If you work within the system, make an effort to get along well with the uncles, aunts, brothers, and sisters in your unit. When they ask if you have a partner, don"t be shy; just say "no," and mention that your social circle is quite narrow and your family is pressuring you. This way, there's a high chance someone will introduce you to a potential partner, and the conditions of the person introduced are usually quite good. After all, the system's circle is relatively stable, and everyone knows each other well, so the success rate is high.
**2. For brothers in private enterprises, online socializing is the way to go** If you work in a private enterprise and are usually quite busy, then turn your attention to online platforms. I"m not talking about using those sketchy dating apps, but rather leveraging existing social platforms like Douyin (TikTok) and Xiaohongshu (Little Red Book). Use the local feature to find women who share their lives, and those with sunny and positive profiles usually won't disappoint. When adding friends, keep the opening line simple, like "Hey, are you from Chengdu too?" Such non-intrusive topics usually get a response. How you proceed from there is up to you.
**3. For brothers with plenty of time, don't miss out on offline activities** If you're not too busy with work or haven't found a suitable job yet, then participate in more offline activities. For example, clubs for swimming, archery, boxing, or day-trip groups around the city. If you're financially well-off, you can directly join a club and take your time to find someone; if you're on a budget, you can attend free trial classes at training centers or try your luck at small bars. In short, get out more, and you're bound to meet the right person.
Finally, I want to say that finding a partner really shouldn"t be rushed, but don't be too laid-back either. As "Free Ningmeng wwx" in the comments section said, there are methods to finding a partner, but the key is to take action. Understanding women's subtext and using the right methods make getting into a relationship not that difficult. I hope my sharing can help everyone, and I wish all single friends find the right person soon!
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