"I want to introduce "Sun Tzu's Art of War" into the opening remarks of girls' chats."
Pony, who has always been modest and cautious, was stunned for 3 seconds, and then laughed like a boar in heat. Then he said to me calmly: "Xianliang, you are so crazy. You can't trick girls and you start tricking boys!"
The chat is An adventurous journey, the brave will always choose to go first.
As long as you chat and communicate with girls, you are bound to encounter some problems.
When faced with problems, we have two choices:
The first type of people face their inner fears, solve them, and continue to grow;
The second type of people Avoid reality, like to feel sorry for yourself, find reasons to think it's the other person's problem, and develop a cowardly character.
I am very happy that I became the first kind of person. In the process, I wrote [Five Thousand Friend Real Chats], which collects all the experiences I encountered while chatting with 5,000 girls in five years. various problems.
I have experienced all of your heart-breaking experiences.
From anger to escape, from reflection to trial and error, until one chat problem is solved one after another. The reason why I share them is that I don’t want readers to make the same emotional mistakes again and again.
Since childhood, we have heard from the elders around us that there is no obstacle that cannot be overcome, but in real life there are many people who are defeated by various postures.
【Five Thousand Friends' Real Chats】is not written for fragile people. Only fragile people need comfort, and there is no comfort here. It is not chicken soup style.
Reality is cruel, life is so difficult, it is the same no matter what time it is. Only strong people can accept reality. Only by accepting reality can they use wisdom to make rational decisions and truly solve the problems in chat.
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To get back to the subject, what we want to share in this article is an insurmountable step in chatting - the opening statement.
Whether it is chatting on online social software or chatting offline, it is the first step of dating. If you can't pass this level, even if you have eighteen martial arts and mastered all kinds of chat skills, you still can't use them.
It goes without saying that the importance of the opening statement, but after many people send the opening statement to a girl, they will be greeted by nothing but silence.
Exactly what kind of opening remarks would girls be reluctant to reply to?
Before that, let’s first appreciate the scene of Xianliang’s overturn when he was still a novice.
Rollover case 1
Rollover case 2
Car rollover case 3
Car rollover case 4
Rollover Case 5
Rollover Case 6
It wasn’t until I finished this article that I realized that I could even turn over a car so lucky.
After turning it over exactly six times, I suddenly felt that I had been guided by something, and I couldn’t help humming Kris Wu’s famous song: "What are you looking at? 6 You and I will go for a walk..."
Next, we use [empathy] to analyze these rollovers.
Put yourself into a girl’s position, even inside your body and brain, and think about a question: If I were a girl, would I reply to this boy’s message?
Tantan It's a women's market. If you think this girl is good, there are bound to be a hundred boys behind her looking at her eagerly.
Next, let’s get into a girl’s mind:
1. She is a popular girl
2. There are more than 100 greetings in Tantan Wait for yourself to reply
3. I haven’t found a boy who is particularly attractive enough for me to take the initiative to say hello
Looking at the opening remarks of the above six boys from such a perspective, I will soon We can find the reasons why girls did not reply to us:
The first boy: sent a big-eyed emoji
Suppose the girl: There is nothing wrong with it, but the amount of information is too little. I don’t even know what pass to reply
The second boy: It’s a bit close
Suppose a girl: I can’t see if it’s close or not? It doesn’t matter if it’s close, just close. Will I reply to you pass
The third boy: Hello, little sister
Suppose the girl: I have received 100 boys to start like this, it is too ordinary and nothing Novelty pass
The fourth boy: Your eyes are like sika deer
Suppose a girl: She has a rich imagination, but she is glib and unscrupulous. Either she is a scumbag or a Neptune pass
The fifth boy: Life is not a perfect life without you
Hypothetical girl: What you say is quite interesting, but there is a rural non-mainstream flavor coming through.
The sixth boy: The one who dares to respond to my message must be a girl who is courageous, has a pure soul, positive energy and is very confident
Hypothetical girl: full of routinesYou are coming at me, trying to force me to reply to your message using a blind and arrogant low-level method such as provocation. Don’t even think about passing
Or, it’s just that you are not handsome enough, that’s all!
p>I used to think that girls wouldn’t be so harsh, right? But the experience of greeting 5,000 girls told me that life is so cruel.
Due to the shortage of girls, this screening mechanism will become more and more cruel and demanding. When you have to compete with hundreds or even tens of millions of guys around girls.
You can imagine that as long as there is a boy who is more interesting, more skilled, or more handsome than you, your probability of appearing is very low.
We should not be discouraged, because there are not that many boys who are willing to calm down and learn the skills of opening remarks.
As long as we improve our self-awareness and master more chatting skills than the average boy, we can stand out from the crowd of males.
Seeing this, in fact, there are only three steps to solve this problem:
The first step is to summarize the reasons why girls do not reply to us just now.
The second step is to reorganize the opening statement but avoid the six minefields just now.
The third step is to try boldly and then keep modifying and trying again until you get results.
Summary of reasons for not replying:
1. Too little information
2. Talking nonsense
3. No new ideas
4. Glib and unscrupulous tongue
5. There are serious traces of earthy love talk
6. Arrogance and tricks to motivate generals
Understand these six minefields Finally, we can summarize in reverse and come up with six major points for a qualified opening statement:
1. The amount of information must be at least content
2. Don’t talk nonsense
3. There should be something new that will catch the girl’s attention and be the first time the girl sees it
4. Use your imagination in a serious manner
5. Don’t plagiarize local love stories
6. The traces of routines should not be serious, do not show arrogance, and do not use provocative methods
After combining the above six points, although the opening statement cannot be achieved The response rate is 100%, but overall it has completely surpassed the past.
Opening Case 1
Opening Case 2
Opening Case 3
It's actually very simple. The opening sentence above is "I don't know what happened, but when I saw that I was successfully matched with you, I had an inexplicable premonition in my heart."
First of all, we avoided the six major opening minefields we just analyzed, and then used one of the tactics in the ancient Chinese military book "Sun Tzu's Thirty-Six Strategies in the Art of War" [to create something out of nothing].
Yes, you read that right. It was from the wisdom of ancient Chinese sages that I realized the true meaning of starting a chat.
If you want the other party to reply, you must have a rational reason.
Then "this inexplicable impulse" becomes a point that the other party can reply to. In order to make it easier for students who are used to thinking about problems using science, engineering and mathematics to understand, I have listed a formula.
Rationalization (after successfully matching with you for some reason) + arousing the other person’s curiosity (inexplicable premonition) = a qualified opening statement
At this time, I understand all the above content You only need to draw inferences from one example to create countless openings.
For example: After seeing you, I suddenly remembered a song, a book, a movie, an actor, etc.
When you can reply to girls skillfully and naturally, and no longer deliberately chat in a rigid manner, you have just stepped into the door of chatting.
The above content is my personal opinion and only represents some of my immature personal views. I hope everyone can communicate with each other.
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That’s all I have to say today. You may not be able to accept some of the content, you may still have a lot of doubts, or you may feel like you are being swallowed by a mouthful of thick chicken soup. I choked and felt bored.
No matter what, learning the skill of chatting will not be an easy task. You need to open the door to chat yourself or open my audio copywriting.
Think about it carefully. Again, I can only help you read, but cannot think for you.
Life is endless and chatting is endless. There is still some way to go after the chat started, and I look forward to seeing you all again.
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