We have just added a girl. We can find many topics from her circle of friends, but not all girls’ circle of friends are public. Some girls’ circle of friends are visible for three days. So what should we do with this kind of girl? What about starting a chat?
1. Create a topical chat room
A friend who a girl rarely posts or sees for three days Circle does not mean that you can't find any common language.
If you want to know a girl who has been visible in your circle of friends for three days, you can use her avatar, Weibo, signature, QQ Music, and even Meituan Takeout and many other social channels to understand the girl’s personality. Hobbies, everyday values ??and rejections.
Nowadays, a person’s information network is divergent, and almost no young person can disappear from the social circle. Therefore, what you have to do is to sort out the context of this girl's general world of values ??through various fragmented information.
If you sort out the elements of her life as follows:
① She often listens to Joker Xue’s songs
② Recently she is following an American TV series
③What she likes most is hot pot
④She seems to have a cat
⑤She seems to live far away from the company
⑥ She is keeping up with fitness
⑦So far, she has a long window of time
Since you have done so much homework before chatting, then don’t do it all at once After talking about everything you know, it is very likely that the girl will feel that "you are monitoring her life", even though your starting point is "you want to understand her".
Then we must give priority to topics that are "niche and easy to start with". Take the above elements as an example, ②④⑤ The topic should be higher than other elements, so you can start from these elements and establish a connection with her. At the same time, don't ignore other elements, substitute them appropriately, or wait for her to take the initiative to talk.
At the same time, you can also give up the right to speak appropriately and act as a listener to let the girl take the initiative to talk, let her take the initiative to talk about herself, and appropriately add her own thoughts and questions to the reply. .
Then this girl will trust you more, and naturally she will be more enthusiastic and sincere towards you.
2. Inject freshness into her life
A girl who basically doesn’t post in Moments or is visible in Moments for three days can actively and enthusiastically chat with you, then she is very interested in you. I already have a strong impression on you.
Treating this kind of girl is actually just like treating a girl who normally yearns for novelty. Don’t be artificial or make the atmosphere too embarrassing. The purpose of your invitation is to letShe felt that "your presence made a slight difference in her life", which was actually enough.
At the same time, there is another very important way to give these girls a sense of freshness: praise and focus.
After all, such girls basically lack some sense of existence in their hearts. Therefore, she needs a boy who can treat her attentively and make her feel that "she is shining in your eyes."
This kind of girl cares very much about details and your attitude.
For example, if you suddenly say to her, "Your eyeshadow looks better today than yesterday" or "I found that you don't like matcha drinks," these subtleties are actually enough to Give girls a sense of satisfaction.
“Let her feel that she is in your world, and she will feel that it is great to have you in her own world.”
In fact, a girl who basically doesn’t post on her friends list Nothing special. It's just that she hopes for a dedicated and focused fate.
When she is willing to share her life and attitude with you, and can actively invite you into her world, it proves that "you are already her special group."
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