Nowadays, many boys do not have a large social circle and do not know many members of the opposite sex. Finally, under the urging of their parents, they have to embark on the road of blind date. However, due to the lack of love experience, even the blind date is not particularly smooth. So how should you chat with your blind date to leave a good impression?
The first thing you need to do in a blind date is to understand why the other person came to participate in this blind date. Generally divided into three situations, let’s analyze them one by one below.
1. The family arranges a blind date with a girl who is generally willing to go on a blind date
This is one of the most common motives for blind dates. First, most of these girls’ families are anxious, but they themselves are not in a hurry to fall in love, and they even have strong resistance to blind dates.
When dating this type of girl, we must not show that we are very satisfied with the date or very fond of this girl, as this will arouse her resentment.
In response to this situation, there is a very good topic, which is to talk with girls about "how did you two get forced by your family to go on a blind date?"
Talking about topics like the above that only the two of you know can achieve a collusion-like effect and arouse the resonance of girls.
This date will also be held in a very relaxed atmosphere, thus leaving a deep impression on the girl.
2. Girls who go on a blind date with the purpose of getting married
This type of girl is very easy to identify because they know the nature of the girl. Second dates have a strong purpose, such as establishing a long-term relationship or getting married.
They even have their own set of dating rules. They are very likely to ask you when they meet, "Do you have a house? Do you have a car? Do you have any brothers and sisters at home?" Wait, for you. Get a detailed understanding of your hard values ??and family background.
She has often been on several similar blind dates before dating you. If you meet her standards, it's easy to say anything.
If you are not confident enough in some of your own conditions, what you need to do is to show your inner self and let the girl feel that we are different from other boys she has known before, so that we can differentiate ourselves from other competitors. Come on.
3. Blind date girls who are worried about their age
Many girls focus on their careers. As they age, Growth, in order to avoid falling into the "leftover girl crisis", they are eager to enter the palace of marriage through blind dates.
There are many reasons why this type of girls are still single, such as work reasons, such as flight attendants, who generally do not have time to fall in love, or forensic medicine, which many boys cannot accept.
Or the originalThe influence of the birth family, such as parents who are not happy enough, makes girls dare not fall in love and develop a fear of marriage; or girls have higher vision and have never met the right person.
In short, as they grow older, they have to realize the real problems, so when they go on a blind date, if she is satisfied with most of your conditions, it will almost not take too long from establishing a relationship to getting married. time.
So if you fall in love with such a girl, you must pay more attention to management and maintenance in this long-term relationship. When boys go on a date, they often put a restraint on themselves, thinking that they are here for a date and must be polite and courteous.
There is nothing wrong with any of this, but it can easily lead to a situation: once boys feel that girls are dissatisfied with any part of what we do, they will try their best to remedy it, thus exposing excessive demands. feel.
With a girl’s social intuition, she will definitely notice it and lower her inner evaluation of you.
Being too polite and polite will lead to the problem of high emotional cost, which will slow down your progress. You will not get much positive feedback in the short term. In addition, your status will also be tilted due to your attitude towards girls, causing girls to take the dominant position and dominate the direction of the relationship, while you yourself fall into passivity. When analyzing dating motivations, in addition to the more common blind dates, you can also analyze the other person's mentality during regular dates so that you can better sense her emotions.
For example, is she agreeing to date you because she also has a crush on you and wants to develop further with you? Or is it because she can't stand you dating her every three days and is forced to see you, hoping to use this opportunity? to cut off your thoughts; or maybe she wants to fall in love in the near future and dates you with a motive similar to a blind date.
These are all worth pondering, because they directly affect whether the atmosphere during your date is relaxed or tense, and whether your chat topics are more about dating or more chatting.