If chatting with girls is always about ordinary topics, it will be difficult to upgrade the relationship. However, if you talk about large-scale topics too early, it will easily make girls feel disgusted. So how should you control the scale of the topic when chatting with girls?
1. Grasp the scale of the topic through the time of acquaintance
Generally speaking, if the acquaintance time is long, such as more than 10 days and half a month, the familiarity of the relationship will be higher. On the contrary, if the acquaintance time is short, such as less than a week, the familiarity of the relationship will be lower.
Unless she shows high interest and responds well to this girl when you first meet her, then the time you know each other is not particularly important. You don’t need to know how long you have known each other before you can flirt. Because girls are very interested in you, you can let go of some teasing and joking during chatting, which may help you get together faster.
But under normal circumstances, girls will be more reserved even when facing boys they like. If you flirt deeply and ambiguously in a short period of time, or even confess your love, the girl will probably refuse. Even if she likes you, she will I will also reject you reservedly.
Therefore, when chatting with girls, the length of time you have known each other cannot sometimes be ignored. Even if you like each other very much at the beginning, don’t rush it, but learn to grasp the scale and advance your relationship with ease. Relationship progress.
2. Grasp the scale of the topic through the way of understanding
The way of understanding is different, so is the grasp of the topic scale. Different.
Because the way you know each other determines your needs for feelings. If your needs for feelings are different, the scale of the relationship will also be different.
For example:
When you are introduced to someone on a blind date, your emotional needs are to get to know a suitable partner, develop a long-term relationship, and get married. Girls will consider many practical issues. This kind of relationship needs to be more sincere in terms of chatting. If there are too many routines and teasing, girls will think that you are a bit carefree and that you are immature, naive and unreliable.
If you meet through the Internet, such as Tantan or Jiayuan, what you need emotionally may be a beautiful and handsome person, and what you need is a happy and loving relationship. Such a relationship is often too much in terms of chatting. Being sincere will make you appear to be very serious and honest when chatting, and you will not dare to joke with girls. The chat topic will always stay in the original stage, so you will obviously be attracted by other boys. You will not grasp the scale accurately and be too "nice". Men” is also common.
3. Use girls’ emotions to grasp the scale of the topic
When it comes to emotions, there is something that must be mentioned It's "interest". Interest is divided into interested, no interest and fake interest
(1) Interested
When girls are interested, girls will be in a better mood. For example, they can say "hahaha", send funny expressions to interact with you, answer your questions, start topics on their own initiative, etc.
When girls are interested, that is, when they are in a good mood, the scale of our chat can be enlarged.
For example:
Boys: Today I went for a run, but my legs are sore now
Girl: Haha, you deserve it
Boy: Come here and squeeze your legs for me
Girl: You can stretch your legs before talking~
When you share your status, it can be seen that the girl is emotional and interested in the reply. Then there is nothing wrong with teasing the girl at this time, "Come here and pinch my legs." The scale of the chat can be larger. It's not a big problem to tease or be ambiguous. It's easy to advance your relationship if you joke appropriately.
Therefore, when a girl is in a good mood, the scale of chatting can be appropriately expanded, and then teasing and ambiguity can be carried out to stretch your relationship.
(2) No interest
When a girl has no interest, her mood will naturally not be good. Reply They will be colder, make it harder for you to answer conversations, refuse to pick up your topics, etc.
At this time, you need to pay attention to your chat scale. If you joke too much, teasing girls too much will make the girl's mood even worse< /p>
Give an example (error):
Boy: I went for a run today, and my legs are sore now
Girl: Oh, it’s very hot today
< p> Boys: Yes, come here and squeeze my legs (wrong scale)Girls: Why?
Give an example (correct):
Boy: I ran today, and my legs are sore now
Girl: Oh, it’s very hot today
Boy: Yes, I’ve prepared a big watermelon. Do you want to eat it~ (scale Get it right, you should have a serious conversation at this time and arouse the girl's emotions first)
Girl: Wow, I want to eat
Boy: Haha, come over here
Dang When chatting, if a girl’s reply is emotionless, and if you make fun of you at this time, the girl will think you are inexplicable. If you do this many times, the girl will slowly reject you from the heart, and her impression of you will be bad. It's getting worse.
Regarding fake interest, I won’t say much here, because during the chat interaction process, girls’ interests and emotions are often very direct, either happy or unhappy.
Generally speaking, it is very important to grasp the scale of chatting based on girls’ emotions. Often, many brothers make inappropriate jokes and say inappropriate things when girls are not in a good mood. What to say, leading to adding fuel to the fire instead of adding icing on the cake. Whether the conversation is good or not and whether the relationship can be upgraded are all in a matter of thoughts.
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