Awkward chatting has always been a big obstacle in our pursuit of girls. Even if a girl likes you, if the chatting remains awkward for a long time, it is easy for the goodwill to slowly disappear. So how can you avoid awkward conversations when chatting with girls?
1. Pay attention to the frequency of chatting
Talk to girls more often Although chatting can quickly enhance feelings, the more you chat, the better. You must know that the topics are also limited! If the frequency of chatting is too high, the consumption of topics will also increase. When the topics are exhausted, Girls are impatient, and awkward conversations are destined to end. Many people have had this experience: while chatting, they suddenly realize that they don’t seem to know what to say... It was clear that they were quite happy chatting with a girl just now, but they just don’t know why they stopped talking after a certain sentence. Know what to say next. This is a symptom of the exhaustion of topics!
The topics we can talk about are related to our knowledge and experiences. Very few people can make up something out of thin air to talk to girls.
So under normal circumstances, the content we can talk about is inseparable from our experiences, news and gossip, interests and hobbies, and things related to knowledge and abilities. So within a certain period of time, the topic is a non-renewable resource.
If at this moment the girl’s interest in chatting is aroused by you, and suddenly the topic dries up and there is nothing to say, then the connection you have finally established with the girl will be gone, and the sense of trust will be gone. and intimacy can also enter a state of extreme vulnerability. In short, don't just go chat with girls when you have nothing to do.
The editor’s suggestion is that if the relationship is not particularly close, just limit it to 3 or 4 times a week, leaving some private space for the girl and leaving time for yourself to prepare more topics.
2. Don’t say inappropriate words
Some awkward conversations are caused by boys’ feelings about the atmosphere and environment. , including the lack of insight into the girl’s state and saying some things that she shouldn’t have said that caused her discomfort.
The boy did not realize his mistake and continued to delve into inappropriate topics, desperately trying to make the girl fall into a bad mood and not want to talk to him anymore.
This kind of behavior is exactly the embodiment of straight male thinking that makes girls dislike it. For example, after watching a movie together, the girl excitedly praised a certain female character in it and regarded her as her idol. At this time, the boy said very embarrassingly: "Huh? I just saw the news a few days ago that she got this role by relying on unspoken rules."
The girl had just blown her idol to the sky, and the boy The girl's emotions must have been very embarrassing as she immediately exposed the scandal. She felt like she had been slapped in the face. She may also defend her idol: "Don't listen to those rumors on the Internet. You know there are many celebrities who are right and wrong, maybe they are the company."Deliberately posting negative information for the sake of hype. "
If the boy continues to pursue this topic with her that embarrasses girls... "I don't think this is a rumor. The entertainment industry is so chaotic, and it's 80% true. ”
When the conversation reaches this level, the atmosphere becomes tense. Girls no longer know how to answer the conversation. If this boy continued to chat, he would lose his standing, so he ended the embarrassing chat hastily.
Most of the so-called straight men have this idea: I think this is what happened. , so I just said, what's wrong? This kind of thinking mode can be said to be simply a bit too much. There are quite a few boys who have this kind of thinking when chatting with girls, not knowing that their words will embarrass girls. , I also feel that I have a clear mind, a unique perspective, and am good at analysis and judgment. I have shown my intelligence and wisdom in front of her. I don’t know how much better than other men she knows.
In fact, how unique you are. , it doesn’t matter how smart you are, the girl’s mood has been pushed into the lowest point by you, and you are a devil who likes to sting her at this moment. You can’t attract girls just by showing your value all the time. When it comes to her, as boys, we must know how to observe and think about a girl's thoughts, and take care of her feelings and emotions.
Don't talk against a girl when she is in high spirits, and don't belittle others. Especially if someone who holds a position in her heart uses her own way to support herself, that is a sure thing.
< h2>3. Seize the windowGirl: “What do you do?”
Boy: “I write novels. ”
Girl: “Wow, that sounds awesome. You must have a lot of interesting stories. Tell me one.” ”
It is obvious that the boy has successfully instilled his own value in the girl and stimulated the girl’s strong interest in him. At this time, if the boy can accurately seize the window and maintain the interest generated by the girl. For example, giving If the girl tells an interesting story, satisfies her curiosity, and at the same time solidifies the value shown before in her heart, then the relationship between the two people will definitely take a big step forward.
But it is a pity. , I often see a lot of brothers answering girls with words like this - "It's not as powerful as you think, and I can't say anything at the moment. Girl: "Okay." "After a girl is rejected, her enthusiasm cools down instantly, and her interest naturally disappears after she calms down.
This can be said to be the most common awkward chat scene. At least one of our two brothers is talking to Girls have done this kind of thing when chatting online.
If you have just been on social software.More than 80% of the girls you meet who are strangers will never reply to your messages again. Only girls who have been chatting with you for a while are likely to continue chatting with you, but the enthusiasm that the girl just raised has been poured cold water on, and she has no interest in continuing the chat. Basically, she just talks casually and ends the conversation. .
Many of our brothers lack the ability to see through the window when it comes to chatting with girls. It is obvious that the girl has shown a strong interest in him, but he is unaware of it and still says something according to his own habit. It seems like a silly thing to say. This makes the girl feel that all her enthusiasm has been wasted. No, there is still a little splash in the water, and your reaction makes her not even hear a "pop" sound.
Girls must be very embarrassed at this time. They feel discouraged for a moment, and then they no longer know what to talk to you about. It is a big problem that troubles many brothers. It can be said that at least 50% of boys who have been single for a long time have this problem.
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