As a boy, many times you want to chat, but every time you send a message to a girl, the topic will end quickly, or the girl will not reply at all. So every time you want to chat with a girl in the future, the girl will be a little afraid that the girl will not reply to your message, thus suppressing the desire to chat. This situation is a bit like avoidance behavior, which is of course incorrect. So what should I do if I send a message to a girl and the girl doesn’t reply?
1. Overcome your own psychological problems
I know that many people are afraid of socializing with girls and prefer to stay alone. They are troubled by not being able to speak and find topics. I don’t know how to chat. Even if I learn a lot of tricks and chicken soup, I still can’t overcome this problem.
First of all, you need to know that no one can’t find a topic. Even people who can’t talk will have countless impulses to express themselves when they talk with someone, and everything in front of them is everywhere. topic.
Only if you don’t dare to find topics, you won’t be able to find topics. Why don't you dare? Because you are afraid that your topic will be boring, unnutritious, and not liked by others.
So the core of solving this problem is to learn the skills of finding topics. The first step is to solve the fear of not being liked!
2. How to do it specifically?
1. First of all, it takes time to solve this problem. You must practice it slowly and gain from the different practices from the past. Change.
2. Accept that you just can’t speak or find topics. If you can’t do this well, it doesn’t mean you are a bad person. You have other good qualities and other values. Others will not leave you just because of this point.
3. The most important thing about an interesting chat is not the speaking skills, but that the person speaking has feelings about the topic. If you express what you really feel, it will be interesting. Someone once said: Only those who can impress themselves can impress others.
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4. I dare not express what I feel and really want to say because I am afraid that girls will find it boring and not like it. You can try a small adventure. First talk about the topic you want to talk about in front of people you know and trust. After you become proficient, you can talk about it in front of people you are not so familiar with, and experience a little bit different feeling from the past.
5. Keep practicing according to item 4, and you will eventually gain a self that can speak. Because there is no longer a fear that limits you, such as "what should be said and what should not be said", you say more what you feel.
5. Even if what you say is touching and good, there will still be people who are not interested. There are over a hundred people, all kinds of people, this is not your problem.
6. Even if girls don’t like what you say, it doesn’t matter. You can have other girly points to make girls like you and want you. If a girl doesn’t like you even though you try your best, it doesn’t matter.Yes, there is no shortage of people in the world.
7. In the social moment, feel your heart and say what you want to say. If you don’t want to say anything, you can remain silent. If you are afraid of being disliked because of your silence, you can refer to the above.
8. The most essential reason for fearing that others will not like you is insufficient self-recognition, that is, a low sense of value. This part of the growth cannot be explained clearly in one note, but it can be solved most thoroughly.
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