When a boy asks a girl, it is basically impossible for her to agree if you ask her out. No matter how good the conversation is, your invitation may be rejected, so all we can do is to improve as much as possible. Invitation success rate, so how can it be easier to date a girl?
1. Improve her sense of security
You know, when a strange boy invites a girl, what the girl thinks about most is not why I want to meet this boy, but whether this boy is a bad person.
After all, girls are far inferior to boys in terms of physical strength. If she encounters a bad guy, it will be difficult for her to resist. Therefore, security has become the first consideration for girls before accepting your invitation.
Especially nowadays, many boys invite girls to dinner for the purpose of dating, leaving a psychological shadow on the girls. If a girl has had this kind of experience before, then she will be more cautious and will not dare to agree to your invitation if you do not give her a sense of security.
Therefore, if you want to ask someone out to meet someone before you have known them for a long time, such an invitation will basically not be successful.
So, before issuing an invitation to a girl, what you have to do is to improve her sense of security, make her trust you, and eliminate her worries. Otherwise, when a girl is worried, the more you trick her, the more she will feel panicked and feel that you have ulterior motives.
The easiest way to increase a girl’s sense of security is to share more about your life and work status with her during daily chats, improve your image in the girl’s mind, and know that you are a person with a legitimate job and life. people.
The biggest source of fear for human beings is the unknown, because the unknown represents risk, and you have no way to deal with this risk. Some boys like to be mysterious in their daily interactions with girls. When a girl asks her where she lives, she doesn’t tell her. When a girl asks her what she does for a living, she doesn’t tell her. When a girl wants to know more about him, she either makes excuses to refuse to answer, or she refuses to answer. Let her guess. I think I am mysterious and cool, but in fact I have been labeled as a "liar" and "untrustworthy" in the minds of girls.
Only by letting a girl understand you, the better she understands you, the more she will trust you.
2. Determine her interest in you
If a girl is not interested in you, she is There is no reason to meet you. This truth should be very simple.
So how do you know that a girl is interested in meeting you? You can identify it with a few simple methods.
I am more enthusiastic when chatting with you and will not perfuse you
I often take the initiative to start chatting with you
Accept vague invitations, such as when you say we will meet together some day What to eat, where to play together.
As long as there are these indicators, that means she is interested in meeting you.
After understanding the prerequisites for pursuing two invitations, I will officially share with you some techniques to improve the success rate of invitations.
1. Create expectations
To create expectations is to first let the girl know that you plan to meet her, so that she can be mentally prepared.
Because if a girl is not mentally prepared, if you suddenly send out an invitation, she will definitely reject it directly.
Therefore, when we can talk about something, if the girl is in a good mood at this time, she can just say: "Haha, if you like it so much, let's go and see it together someday." As long as If the girl says yes, then when you ask her out later, the girl won't reject it, because you have told her in advance that you are going to do this, and she has agreed.
Especially for some things that girls really want to do, if you give her an expectation, she will have a strong sense of expectation in her heart, and she will accept the formal invitation without hesitation.
2. Give girls a motivation to come out to meet each other
We need motivation to support everything we do. , if you don’t know why you are doing it, you basically won’t do it. Including dating, if a girl feels that you have no reason worthy of her meeting, it will be difficult for her to agree to meet you. And most girls are very reserved. Even if they are interested in you, they will hesitate when they receive your invitation request. They feel that meeting a boy casually seems too ungirly. And some girls may even think that if you come out as soon as you call her, their prices will drop, making it appear that they have a strong need for you.
So to increase the success rate of your invitation, you have to give her a reason to accept your invitation, which is enough to convince her to put down her reserve, so that she can have the motivation to come out and meet you.
For example:
"You said before that you like to eat XX, today I found a restaurant that is particularly delicious, I will take you there."
"This The peach blossoms have basically bloomed in a few days. I will take you to see the peach blossoms during the weekend. "I really want to eat at that XX restaurant you mentioned. Please take me there."
In short, you just need to give the girl the feeling that she came out to meet you because of what you said, and not specifically for you.
3. Use a positive tone when making invitations
Don’t use a discussion tone when making invitations, such as "Do you want it?" "Can it be done?" "Can it be done?"
Using a discussion tone to make an invitation is equivalent to proactively reminding girls to think carefully about whether to agree to you. This may cause girls to feel that they don’t really want to do it, and then reject you. It may even make girls think that you are not special.Don't be sincere and just mention it casually, then the girl will feel that she should be a knowledgeable person and stay away.
4. Make sure the girl is available
Time can be said to be the biggest uncertain factor. Sometimes even if a girl wants to meet you, she is really not available at the time you make an appointment. , then I can only reject you.
For example, she has made an appointment with her best friend in advance, and she has to work overtime, etc. If you don't eliminate this uncertainty and go out to ask her out regardless of circumstances, she will easily be rejected.
So how do you determine what time is more convenient for girls?
You can say something unrelated to the invitation before the invitation, such as: "Tomorrow is the weekend, you can have a good sleep all day "I'm too lazy to sleep." As long as the girl accepts your words, it will be easy to tell whether she is free tomorrow. If she is not free, she will say, "I have to go shopping with my best friend, so I can't sleep." If she is free, she will I will agree with your words, "Yes, yes, you can sleep until you wake up naturally."
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